Read the title of this article again. Let that sink in for just a moment.
Did you read it? Did you ask yourself why they wouldn't be nice? They certainly seem like they are. Did they change? Are they really acting sweet and nice?
Narcissists are typically characterized by having a grandiose sense of self-importance, a sense of entitlement, lack of empathy, and several other traits. Many times, though, Narcissists are not outwardly exhibiting these traits to the point of obviousness. Many Narcissists are covert in nature.
Have you ever wondered why you always feel so drained and weary when you are around the Narcissists? Have you wondered why you felt worn down to your very core? You can be sure that the Narcissists are at work.
If you’ve had a run-in with a Narcissist or two, chances are you’ve been witness to their know-it-all attitude. Why is it that they take on such a superior stance? Why do they consider themselves the authority on every subject?
Narcissists condition us to fear them. Fear of what they’ll say, what they’ll do. Fear of what might follow when they come home if we don’t obey their rules, their way of life. I lived this fear day in and day out. I lived in fear of how he’d react to something. Anything.
Normal healthy individuals view others (friends, partners, etc) as their allies. Narcissistic individuals, on the other hand, have a distorted perception of others. They feel that we are their enemies. They feel we are the evil ones.
Narcissists excel in mirroring others – how they act, how they speak, and even the words they use. It’s no wonder then that Narcissists can blend in so well. Narcissists are the epitome of charm, wit and popularity. So it stands to reason that so many are fooled by them.
When Narcissists enter into any kind of relationship (plutonic, romantic, etc), they are under the assumption that they own the other person. That they can do what they want to that person and not be held accountable. Narcissists are possessive and they don’t care for anyone who tries to break free from the possession.
In healthy human behavior, we account for our actions by accepting responsibility for them. We take ownership of our words and actions and make amends where we need to. However, with Narcissists, that is not the case. They will justify their behavior.
In normal healthy relationships, there is an equal give and take. An equal ebb and flow. But with Narcissists, nothing is normal. There is no give and take. There is no ebb and flow. In fact, Narcissists live by their own set of rules, while demanding another set of rules for their targets. This is the Narcissist’s double standard.
This guest post explores the differences between having narcissistic tendencies from time to time versus being a true Narcissist. What are your thoughts regarding this topic? Comment below. And as always, I appreciate you for sharing your stories with me.
Outsiders think they know a Narcissist when they are one. Someone who is so outwardly into themselves. Someone who boasts often. But, there are signs of Narcissism that are easily missed when one doesn't understand the depths Narcissists go to in order to obtain supply.
Narcissists are like chameleons. They will always change to adapt to their surroundings to blend in and be like those around them. This guest post explores how the Narcissist is always "becoming" something else.
Jealousy, by definition, is an emotion that is displayed when someone is envious of another’s achievements, success, or talents. So, because of a Narcissist’s over-inflated sense of self-importance, they will outwardly displayed these jealous feelings towards another person when that other person has something the Narcissist does not.
They say the eyes are the windows to the soul. With Narcissists, however, the eyes have a completely different use altogether. Narcissists have no soul and therefore cannot convey THEIR emotions. But they can certainly instill certain emotions within US.
Narcissists can become dead set on enacting revenge against someone when things don’t go their way. It’s a broad way to say that they become frustrated and enraged when they become insulted or that their perceived sense of superiority takes a hit.
Toxic individuals like Narcissists are afraid to show emotions. It all comes down to that they refuse to show any kind of vulnerability. It would destroy their self-perceived sense of power that they think they have.
Nothing about the Narcissists is real. This includes love and relationships. They THINK they are in love. They SAY they are in love. They even express it to the whole world through their social media pages that they found "the one" and how happy they are. But this isn't love in the sense of what a healthy, empathic person feels. In fact, Narcissists do not love at all. Ever. This guest post explores why.
Road rage in and of itself is a sign of aggression. But looking at this one thing, we can’t conclude if another person is a Narcissist or not just because they are aggressive. It’s certainly a red flag, and that’s why we need to look at the whole. See if there are more red flags.
It’s a fact of life. We will age and grow older. We will develop wrinkles. We will begin to forget things. No one likes these things. No one likes to get older. But Narcissists? They absolutely despise aging!
What happens when you have both a Narcissistic Spouse AND a Narcissistic Mother in Law? It's a recipe for disaster, that's what. Today's guest blog post describes SPOT ON how I felt about having my NX as well as his mother against me. One of the first times I had experienced her Narcissistic behavior was when she came over to our house for a visit. She said to me, "Well, he's your problem now!"
Have you ever seen a puppeteer at work? They spend years honing their craft. As a result, they can masterfully control the levers to make the puppet move and “talk” in ways that they want it to. Many puppeteers make a living from this craft.
Have you ever wondered why Narcissists blame everyone else for things that go wrong? Have you wondered why Narcissists never own up to their mistakes? It’s because they don’t ever take responsibility for their actions. They never hold themselves accountable.
Narcissists are known for never accepting responsibility in their lives. This includes pitching in with household duties. And as such, they will end up making you feel like a servant.
If you are new to the world of recovery from Narcissistic Abuse, you might be asking yourself why Narcissists seem to love picking fights. This is an extremely valid question, indeed. I asked myself that same question over and over at the start of my healing journey. There is only one possible explanation that I came up with – Narcissists pick fights because they need the supply.
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