Have you ever wondered why you always feel so drained and weary when you are around the Narcissists? Have you wondered why you felt worn down to your very core? You can be sure that the Narcissists are at work.
Narcissists are termed Emotional Vampires because they can drain you of your joy, your love, your entire being. It’s just like how the tales of vampires drain victims of their blood to sustain their own existence. That’s what Narcissists do. They drain us of all that is good in us so that they can sustain their pathetic existence.
Why it works
Narcissists feed off their targets much in the same way that parasites feed off their hosts. The N will continue to drain their targets of their physical and emotional energy by using any number of the tactics in the N’s arsenal.
It’s an insidious form of abuse because the N does this over a period of time. It’s so that you won’t notice it right away. They draw upon our compassion, our empathy and our strengths to get us to provide them with the attention, adulation and admiration they require while simultaneously ignoring our own needs and wants.
Narcissists are takers. They take, take, take until there is nothing left to take. Then they take some more. We aren’t even aware they are doing this because we are so mesmerized by their charm, their wit, and their “love” for us. We neglect our own needs to attend to theirs. We don’t replenish our own well. This is why we feel so drained when dealing with a Narcissist. They drain us to the point of feeling beyond empty.
The N will move from target to target to continue receiving the supply they require to live. When the Narcissists feel they can no longer draw supply from you, that is when they move onto another target. That is why the N’s leave a trail of victims in their wake. It’s also why you’ll discover that the victims share so much in common – from their exhaustion to the tactics the N used.
Narcissists take whatever they can get whenever they can get it. It’s an investment. Many Narcissists invest their time in the relationship with us (plutonic or otherwise) to extract what they want from us. They aim to destroy their targets, so they typically won’t move on to the next target until they feel they have drained you dry, like a vampire. And even when you are drained, they can still come back from time to time to ensure their “handy work” is still effective.
What are your thoughts on the Narcissists being emotional vampires? Comment below. And as always, I appreciate you for sharing your thoughts with me.
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