Have you ever seen a puppeteer at work? They spend years honing their craft. As a result, they can masterfully control the levers to make the puppet move and “talk” in ways that they want it to. Many puppeteers make a living from this craft.
Much in the way a puppeteer makes a living from the craft, so too do Narcissists.
Wait. How do Narcissists make a living out of being a puppeteer? Well, Narcissists spend all their time and energy on ways to control people. So by an extension of the puppeteer definition, Narcissists can also be considered puppet masters.
Pull the string
Decades ago, puppets were controlled by strings attached to wooden sticks that the puppeteers held in their hand. (They were called marionettes.) They would move these sticks up and down, and left and right to make the puppet walk, dance, and move in many different ways. In essence, they would “pull the string” that would make the puppet move.
Narcissists essentially do the same thing with their targets, and anyone else they are using for their benefit. Flying Monkeys are a good example of this too. In my blog post on Flying Monkeys, I discussed how the Narcissists use numerous others to get what they want. They pull the flying monkey’s string to make them do what the Narcissists want. Many times, it’s to abuse you by proxy.
The Narcissist’s goal as puppet master is to get what they want no matter the cost. They will continue to pull the string for as long as they can derive pleasure from it.
“This is my aim. This is the means to my end of obtaining my fuel from you. As you will no doubt becoming familiar with, the means always justifies the end. Accordingly, by ensuring you become my puppet I am in the optimum position to control you to extract every drop of fuel I can from you.”
So as long as they can extract supply from you, they will continue to squeeze what they can out of you. And they keep us hooked by the sporadic idealization they sprinkle into our lives. The “good times” they speak about. This intermittent reinforcement keeps our hope alive that maybe, just maybe, we can get back to the good times.
But there are no good times. All there is, is the Narcissist pulling the strings. All there is, is us dancing to the Narcissist’s tune.
What are your thoughts on Narcissists being called puppet masters? Comment below. And as always, I appreciate you for sharing your stories with me.
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