In normal healthy relationships, there is an equal give and take. An equal ebb and flow. But with Narcissists, nothing is normal. There is no give and take. There is no ebb and flow. In fact, Narcissists live by their own set of rules, while demanding another set of rules for their targets. This is the Narcissist’s double standard.
Good for the goose
What’s good for the goose, definitely does not apply to the gander. Narcissists exempt themselves from the rules that they demand their targets abide by.
The “Law of Double Standards” applies to any situation you may find yourself in with the Narcissists. Below are just some examples, with my experiences in italics.
Narcissists are demanding creatures. They expect everything from us, but give nothing in return. They will continually and consistently point out our faults, but admit none of their own. This is because the Narcissists cannot and will never admit to any wrongdoing. What has been your experience with a Narcissist’s double standards? Comment below. And as always, I appreciate you for sharing your stories with me.
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Samantha
7/24/2019 11:10:58 pm
Hi! I just stumbled across this and I am so happy to learn that I am not the only one! I just recently (today) cut all communication with my NX! Everything you said is spot on with mine except mine is an introvert and a manipulator! He would tell me I was a cheater because I slept with another guy after he broke up with me and I only did because I found out he had slept with 3 different girls and in the middle of that we had hooked up and he is telling me he loves me and wants me but seconds after that he texted another girl. Come to find out he had been talking msg texting etc other females the whole time we had been talking he said I was a slut because I slept with someone else and I was tainted and I would never be special to him because I had slept with someone else but never said anything about what he did. Or he would say I did it because of what you did. He also would tell me that I was fat and I needed to work on my butt because it wasn’t how he liked it. I was not fat could I have worked on my butt yes but I wasn’t fat and not toned mind you he was and had always been over weight and not athletic. I lost 20 lbs being with him and I moved out of my apartment got rid of all my belongings because he wanted to move in together after we moved into a home that I used my student loan to pay for deposit and first months rent he kicked me out and told me he didn’t want to be with me. He then made it hell for me to live with him calling the cops on me and telling them I didn’t live there and I had stolen his car different things locking me out of the house. We both have kids from previous relationships his kids lived with us and my kids went back and forth week on week off with their father. When I had my kids he would tell me I couldn’t stay because it wasn’t a good idea with how things were going and I also didn’t want my kids around him. I had to stay at different places because of him. I have been through so much with he that I lost myself and I’m still working on letting go I finally went no contact but my mind is still not at peace with having him blocked. A part of me wants to know if he responded to my last text but a bigger part of me keeps saying don’t do it this is only any other month of fighting and arguing instigated by him but he would blame me for fighting. I am glad that I am at least strong enough to block him completely. I am also in therapy to help deal with the trauma he put me through. Thank you for telling your story.
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