Jealousy, by definition, is an emotion that is displayed when someone is envious of another’s achievements, success, or talents. So, because of a Narcissist’s over-inflated sense of self-importance, they will outwardly displayed these jealous feelings towards another person when that other person has something the Narcissist does not.
Extreme jealousy is noted as a defining characteristic trait of Narcissists. A trait that will lead their actions. When Narcissists are jealous, they will begin to dictate to their targets what they can and cannot do. (“Don’t wear that shirt, it looks too revealing and others will oogle you” or “I don’t want you talking to other guys/girls.”)
Narcissists are lacking in every area in life. Yet, they act like they “have it all” – success, accolades, promotions, intelligence, etc. They pad their resumes to seem more important and more accomplished than they actually are. They feel they are more important than those around them. So they will naturally be jealous of those who truly have achieved more in life than they have.
Their jealousy inevitably will remind them that they are lacking, and will lash out at others to bring them down. This will, in turn, make them feel above those they “kick down.” Doing so, will boost their sense of grandiosity and superiority.
Anything we achieve or get recognition for, the Narcissists will no doubt feel an inner need to destroy. They crave the “joy” they get by “raining on our parade” when they bash our hopes, dreams, fears, achievements and accomplishments. They will never have what we have and that’s why they have to take away the pride we feel in ourselves. They need to minimize our achievements or accomplishments so that they can feel that high.
Ironically, our achievements and successes are what draws them to us in the first place. In the idealization phase, they brag to others about our achievements. Our successes. Our intelligence. They will use us to “show off” to their buddies, higher ups, etc. What initially drew them to us, will be the same things they use against us to tear us down.
Narcissists are jealous, there’s no doubt about that. They are jealous of our close relationship to our parents. They are jealous of our intelligence. They are jealous if their children are smarter than they were at that age. They are jealous of our achievements and recognitions. They are jealous of our happiness post discard. Narcissists will use their jealousy to destroy our lives. Your best bet is to go No Contact with them.
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