Jealousy, by definition, is an emotion that is displayed when someone is envious of another’s achievements, success, or talents. So, because of a Narcissist’s over-inflated sense of self-importance, they will outwardly displayed these jealous feelings towards another person when that other person has something the Narcissist does not.
Extreme jealousy is noted as a defining characteristic trait of Narcissists. A trait that will lead their actions. When Narcissists are jealous, they will begin to dictate to their targets what they can and cannot do. (“Don’t wear that shirt, it looks too revealing and others will oogle you” or “I don’t want you talking to other guys/girls.”)
Narcissists are lacking in every area in life. Yet, they act like they “have it all” – success, accolades, promotions, intelligence, etc. They pad their resumes to seem more important and more accomplished than they actually are. They feel they are more important than those around them. So they will naturally be jealous of those who truly have achieved more in life than they have. Their jealousy inevitably will remind them that they are lacking, and will lash out at others to bring them down. This will, in turn, make them feel above those they “kick down.” Doing so, will boost their sense of grandiosity and superiority. Anything we achieve or get recognition for, the Narcissists will no doubt feel an inner need to destroy. They crave the “joy” they get by “raining on our parade” when they bash our hopes, dreams, fears, achievements and accomplishments. They will never have what we have and that’s why they have to take away the pride we feel in ourselves. They need to minimize our achievements or accomplishments so that they can feel that high. Ironically, our achievements and successes are what draws them to us in the first place. In the idealization phase, they brag to others about our achievements. Our successes. Our intelligence. They will use us to “show off” to their buddies, higher ups, etc. What initially drew them to us, will be the same things they use against us to tear us down. Bottom line Narcissists are jealous, there’s no doubt about that. They are jealous of our close relationship to our parents. They are jealous of our intelligence. They are jealous if their children are smarter than they were at that age. They are jealous of our achievements and recognitions. They are jealous of our happiness post discard. Narcissists will use their jealousy to destroy our lives. Your best bet is to go No Contact with them. What have been your experiences with a Narcissist's jealousy? Comment below. And as always, I appreciate you for sharing your stories with me.
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Terri Buchanan
4/4/2018 08:03:46 pm
Thanks so much for your blog, it has been so very helpful. I found out 4 months ago that my husband of 28 years had been having a year-long affair with the neighbor. He is the sweetest, kindest, nicest person you could ever meet, and to say that I was devastated is an understatement. In the beginning all he could say was that she was very powerful and talked about the flattery. Anyway, over the next few months, I did a lot of searching and we are both convinced that she is a psychopath. The jealousy thing is one of many things that fit. He told me she would go into a rage when any woman texted him.... our Real estate agent ( we were buying a piece of property).... a neighbor who had questions about our homeowners association ( he was a previous member of the board)..... she even tried to make him say that he would never text any woman. When he told me this initially, I thought it was ridiculous....First, he was married, but he also does text women for a specific purpose. Also, he makes wine and gives a lot away, she had an absolute fit over that as well. Reading your blog post totally fits with what she did. Also, reading other posts about manipulation and mind control has helped me tremendously. Truthfully, this would never have happened with “normal” person, I think my pastor hit it on the head.... she wanted my life so she went after my husband
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Nikki B
5/1/2018 06:57:05 pm
My narc is a roommate that will not move out abd the nephew of a dear friend. A friend of mine took me out for dinner a young gay man (but that was never revealed to roomie)he is old enough to ve my son and he calls me momma Nikki like all the youngers at work do anyway when my roomie asked me where i was i flat told him with a friend having dinner & hes been trying to get me to go for a bit. Well my roommate got very upset which I found very comical cuz we haven't dated in forever we dated for a minute when we first met six years ago before he became every me and he's been here for 6 years I'm guessing that was probably a mistake cuz you know there's this is are conquerors and I kept telling you that but I didn't really know her but what a narcissist was at that point I do know the game now and then it kind of was flattering sorta but I didn't say a word I just said why are you upset we're not even dating why do you care I don't care well obviously you do care but you know thanks I'm fine have a nice night at work laugh laugh giggle giggle and then a friend of his his uncle as a matter fact came over to our house and brought with him some very very light beer which is not my favorite but I do like a good ice cold beer sometimes when I drink one that he had left behind and Rumi saw it in the trash you just thought I committed a murder he about lost his mind there has been a guy in this house how could you do that to me blah blah blah I said excuse me first of all this is my house I pay for it and cash it is mine you rent a room here you do not own it and if I want to have somebody over at the house that's my business but since we made a promise to each other that we would never bring her boyfriend and girlfriends to the house because it would be rude since we did date for a minute I did not bring anybody to the house I drink the beer you're lying you don't drink beer this is how well he knows me he knows I like to drink I like to drink which I have now quit and I drink because of him which I just figured out you know basically this month but I get found that very comical why do you care who's been in this house but you don't know me very well I am a drinker I drink blew him away he just didn't believe me few other incident stupid it cracks me up he couldn't get into my skin with that one cuz I just thought it was too funny wasn't coming at me at the right direction but the stuff you just pulling on me in the last 6 months since my in November which was my 50th birthday I have no family and he knows it he said I'll take you out for steak dinner I promise and then I'm going to ask him hey when would you like to go out for the steak dinner I don't owe you any steak dinner for your birthday I have no obligation to you whatsoever I go well honey I promise is an obligation you idiot so that really broke my heart and he knows it did because that's a milestone birthday but he had met this girl and they how I realized that I was holding for the triangulation but that's okay you can keep the girl and I'll go have dinner by myself LOL
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