When someone is physically abused, it is unfortunately easier to see the lasting scars and effects of the abuse. Not so much with emotional abuse. With emotional abuse, many of the scars can't easily be seen. With emotional abuse, many of the scars are on the inside.
Effects of emotional abuse can be placed into 2 categories: short-term and long-term. I experienced both. Both short term and long term effects of emotional abuse leave an indelible mark on the victim's psyche.
Emotional abuse cuts to the core of the victim's very being. It leaves scars that the rest of the world can't see. Even the short-term effects can be debilitating. Some of these effects are:
While I was still with my NX and even immediately following my discard, I felt each of the above effects. I didn't trust myself to make decisions, I felt like no one would even want me (even my own family!), and I absolutely could not look anyone in the eye. I felt like my whole being was destroyed!
Whether your relationship lasted a month, a year or 10 years, the long term effects that Narcissistic and Emotional Abuse can leave on a person can be quite detrimental. My relationship with my NX lasted a little over 5 years (including the time we were married). The abuse even continued after that, too. And for a while, his tactics worked. Until I got myself into therapy and started putting the things I learned into practice. Some of the long term effects that I experienced were:
Sometimes, some long term effects like depression and difficulty sleeping can interfere with every day life. So much so, that the victim is often left unable to work or leave the house. Even though my NX lives on the opposite coast than me, I still looked over my shoulder and jumped every time someone came up behind me (and said hello, or excuse me, etc). For a while, I even withdrew from what I used to love to do.
Because a person's mind and body are connected, it is inevitable that what a person feels emotionally, that person will feel physically. For a long time after the discard (read my post The Discard for more information), I would get panic attacks that consisted of rapid heart-rate and shortness of breath every time my NX even called me on the phone!
What (if any) effects have you noticed in regards to the Narc in your life? Comment below. And as always, I appreciate you sharing your stories with me.
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