If you’ve had a run-in with a Narcissist or two, chances are you’ve been witness to their know-it-all attitude. Why is it that they take on such a superior stance? Why do they consider themselves the authority on every subject?
Jack of all trades
There’s a saying that goes, “Jack of all trades, master of none.” This is the Narcissist. They make claims to know everything about everything, yet show no skill or expertise. They won’t care if we show obvious knowledge about a particular subject. Instead, they will brush us aside or simply ignore us. They just want to show the world that they are the best at everything.
Narcissists will repeatedly hijack a conversation and not let you get a word in. They don’t care about your thoughts and opinions. They’ll even give the illusion that they care by asking you what you think, then interrupt you and talk over you just to sound important and all-knowing.
Here’s where Narcissists feel they have the highest authority. They will act like they know you better than you know yourself. Narcissists will tell you that they know how you should be living your life. Do you have a job that they don’t care for? They’ll tell you that you are in a dead-end job and should look for another job. Do you not live where they think you should live? They’ll tell you that you live in a dump and that you should move to a certain area.
Narcissists also think of themselves as the total authority on parenting. If you are not doing something the way they think it should be done, they will have no qualms about telling you. They will intervene when they think you are doing something wrong and correct you. It’s ironic, really, because they contribute little (if at all) to the actual parental responsibilities. When the NX was deployed overseas, he would tell me through email and Skype how to take care of the children. I was doing it wrong, he said.
Even when he was home, his “expertise” on parenting was ongoing. His pompous attitude took on a life of its own. He repeatedly acted like I should learn how to parent the children from him!
I held a few different kinds of jobs during my relationship with the NX. The jobs were not in the same discipline, yet the NX took an arrogant all-knowing posture about both. The first job was something he didn’t know enough about, which was evident by his lack of proper spelling and grammar. Yet, he proceeded to inform me how he thought I should do my job. The other job was one he actually worked in, but had less experience than I did. I had worked in the field of the second job for over a decade, but he was in that field only a handful of years. Yet, he proceeded to act like he knew more than me.
We all have them. But Narcissists will highlight your faults on a continual basis. They will preach to you how you should go about fixing things in your life. The Narcissists may have had no training whatsoever in psychology, but proceed to magically transform themselves into a therapist and lecture you on what they think is wrong with you. They will “diagnose” you and tell you that you need professional help. The NX did this to me consistently. It’s as if he felt tearing me down was the only way to improve me. When he discarded me, he would comment on my Facebook posts that I needed to concentrate on “getting better” so that the children could have a healthy mother.
Narcissists will take on a know-it-all attitude with anything and everything. They will carry themselves in a pompous manner throughout their life. There is no winning with them. There is no out-maneuvering them or out-smarting them. They will find ways to tear down your knowledge any chance they get.
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