Road rage in and of itself is a sign of aggression. But looking at this one thing, we can’t conclude if another person is a Narcissist or not just because they are aggressive. It’s certainly a red flag, and that’s why we need to look at the whole. See if there are more red flags.
Aggression while driving isn’t the first red flag I spotted in my NX. In fact, I wasn’t even thinking about “red flags” when I first began dating him. I did notice several things that were “off” with him, but of course, at the time, I was being lovebombed so I just brushed it all off.
Looking back though, I can now say that my NX did indeed have quite a bit of road rage.
What are the signs of road rage?
The “I don’t care” attitude
If you combine the signs of road rage with other red flags, you need to be aware. Be aware that the person you are with very well could be a Narcissist. Narcissists have an “I don’t care” attitude. They extend that to everyone in their lives, including their own family (children included).
My NX did not care whether myself or the children were in the car. He would drive very aggressively on the road. And when I dared to mention to him to slow down or not tailgate? That would unleash his aggression on ME. That made him an even more aggressive driver! Forget me for a second. I feared for the safety of my children!
I remember one time when he was driving in his new truck. It was raining out and he was tailgating a driver. The driver in front of him slowed down to make a left hand turn into the local mall’s parking lot. My NX didn’t stop in time of course because he was tailgating, and ended up hit the driver in front of us. It wasn’t a large impact, as he was going much slower. But the first words out of my NX’s mouth was, “Oh my truck!” Nevermind that you had your 2 year old daughter in the backseat and I was nearly 3 months pregnant with my son at the time. No, nevermind that.
You see, Narcissists have the “I don’t care” attitude. They don’t care about anyone or anything other than themselves. (Yes, my daughter and I were fine. Just shaken up a bit.)
When it’s a potential for harm
Because Narcissists have that I don’t care attitude, they are putting themselves and those in the vehicle with them, at risk. They feel they have the right to dominate the roads. It’s that sense of entitlement that Narcissists have.
That entitlement increases the risk for harm. They put everyone at risk. Pay attention if they do a “fly by” mention of their driving record. Did they get any tickets in the past? If they did, did they curse the police officer who gave it to them? Did they say, “The stupid cop claimed I was speeding. I didn’t do anything wrong. I was just driving”? Do they have any accidents on their record? Did they blame the other driver?
A Narcissist’s reckless nature behind the wheel will certainly raise red flags. My NX would not only exhibit the above signs of road rage, but he’d also claim he was such a perfect driver (despite having tickets and such). He’d give me the “all knowing” attitude and claim all the other drivers on the road are stupid and that they must have gotten their licenses in a gumball machine.
Narcissists show a wanton disregard for the safety of others when behind the wheel of a vehicle. They may even suddenly jerk the steering wheel to cause a passenger to bump their head against the door frame. (My NX did that a few times and blamed me for not paying attention.) Road rage alone may not be enough to deduce if someone is a Narcissist. But if you combine it with other Narcissistic red flags, then it will certainly spell trouble for any target that the Narcissists set their eyes on.
What has been your experience with someone who has road rage? Comment below. And as always, I appreciate you for sharing your stories with me.
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