When Narcissists enter into any kind of relationship (plutonic, romantic, etc), they are under the assumption that they own the other person. That they can do what they want to that person and not be held accountable. Narcissists are possessive and they don’t care for anyone who tries to break free from the possession.
The healthy person cannot comprehend such a distrust because they don’t think like Narcissists do. Healthy individuals don’t see others as possessions, or things to be used.
Narcissists, on the other hand, have a sense of ownership towards the target. They think that the target is theirs and theirs alone. No one else can have them. No one else can talk to them. No one else can use them.
The longer this relationship goes on, the more the Narcissists think that they have a right to treat the target as they see fit.
The NX in my life was always jealous of my ability to make friends easily. Therefore, he found ways to destroy my gregarious nature so that I didn’t even want to go out of the house. He assumed that when I was courteous to other men that I wanted to sleep with them. He even accused me of doing so!
Because of a Narcissist’s extreme ways, they even expect their targets to account for their whereabouts every minute of every day. And if the target can’t account for every minute, the Narcissist is likely to launch into a tirade and “punish” the target.
Narcissists will isolate their targets to prevent them from gaining any strength whatsoever. A target who develops strength is a target who will build autonomy, and therefore, gain insight into what the Narcissist is. The Narcissists cannot have that, so they want to be the only one in the target’s life.
The NX in my life saw any connection that I made as a threat. It is the reason why we moved so often. He did not want me to have any kind of support system. Support systems are crucial to strength and independence, and Narcissists know this. They want their targets to be focused solely on them and them only.
When a target is isolated in such a manner, they become entirely dependent upon the Narcissists. For attention. For love. For interaction. For partnership. For everything. And that’s just the way the Narcissists want it.
If I purchase a book, that means I possess it. I can do what I want with that book. I can read it. I can make notes in it. I can fold the pages. I can even donate it or throw it away when I am done with it. Narcissists are exactly like that in terms of how they think about their targets. They think they own their targets and can do whatever they want to them. Even when they discard us, the Narcissists still think they own us and can do whatever they want to us.
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