Narcissists don’t want us to heal. They don’t want us to move forward in life. They don’t want us to recover. This is precisely why they will come back around even after the discard. Don’t think that they are done with you when the discard occurs. Because they always come back around.
Healing from Narcissistic and Emotional Abuse is difficult at best. Why? It isn’t fair that we are the ones who have to do all the work. Much of that work comes in the form of finding the right therapist to conduct one on one counseling with us.
Some experts say Narcissists can change. I’m not so sure about that. I mean, just because I haven’t seen it happen, doesn’t mean it can’t. However, more often than not, Narcissists cannot be fixed.
One of the hallmark traits of Narcissists is their grandiose thinking. This line of thinking saturates every pore of the Narcissist’s personality and is the basis for which they operate.
The Jekyll and Hyde Narcissist. You never know what you're going to get. So you walk on eggshells. You are careful what you say and do. They are mean. They are nice. The back and forth makes you dizzy and unsure of what's real. This guest post discusses the long term effects that this type of person can have on you.
You found the love of your life. Things seem great…for a while. Then things began to get edgy. Your love began to devalue you. You aren’t thought of in the same way as when the relationship first began. You begin to feel that how the person is treating you isn’t quite right. You can’t put your finger on it. Then, from what seems like out of nowhere, you are dumped. Discarded like yesterday’s trash. Yet, even after the supposed end of the relationship, the abuse is continuing. So if the relationship is over, why does the abuse still happen? Why does the abuse continue even after the discard?
When a person enters into a 12 Step program, one of the first things he or she learns is that admitting to the issue propels him or her into recovery. It’s the first step. Admitting what’s wrong. When we admit to our hurt, we essentially set the wheels in motion to begin our recovery.
Out of all the questions that ran through my mind in my healing journey, the one that kept coming up is “Why did he choose me?” Knowing why the Narcissists choose us is essential to our healing and recovery.
It’s so hard to believe that I began this blog one year ago today. With great trepidation, I pressed the publish button on the page. I couldn’t believe it. I was a blogger! In the past year, I have published 125 blogs (including this one) on Narcissistic and Emotional Abuse. I have discussed characteristics, tactics and healing methods. I have learned so much in the past year!
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Greetings, my warrior survivor friends! Welcome to my blog. I'm Julianna Jen, the owner and creator of this site. Check out the My Story section to read about why I started this blog. Thanks for stopping in. And feel free to comment on any post, share your own thoughts and stories. I would love to hear from you!
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Here you will find my most popular posts for easier discovery.
How Narcissists Make Sure You Never Solve Problems In A Relationship
Tightening Your Facebook Privacy Settings
How I Lost My Identity
The Fake Apology
Effects of Emotional Abuse
Why You Should Never Defend Yourself Against The Narcissist's Smear Campaign
Emotionally Abusive Behaviors
Going No Contact: A List Of What To Do And What Not To Do
An Open Letter To All Survivors Who Just Got Out Of An Abusive Situation
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