Narcissists are masters of illusion. They spend their time perfecting their skill set in order to lure us in. The below guest post explores the Narcissistic Illusion that is a Narcissist's entire deceptive way of living.
Children are the innocent victims caught in the crossfire when Narcissistic parents play the loyalty conflict game. It is a fascinating topic. One that I wanted to explore more in a blog post.
Narcissists will categorize their children. They will place titles on their children in accordance with how they treat them. It doesn't matter if a family has one child or 10 children, the labels of the Scapegoat, the Conformer, the Runner and the Golden Child will always be present.
In the Narcissistic relationship dynamic, you might often hear the words codependent or codependency. These words are used far too often when referring to abusive situations. But are victims and survivors of Narcissistic Abuse codependent or is it something else?
Even before my NX discarded me, I would relay to those closest to me about my experiences. Not only did I not get believed (which is something that all victims/survivors need), I would also be told things like, “What did you do to provoke him” or “Why didn’t you just leave if it was so bad” or even “He had a bad day at work. You should have just left him alone.” These statements are all a form of victim-blaming.
Abuse isn’t love. You don’t go around destroying people you claim to love. It’s that simple. But sometimes, it’s hard for victims to understand the severity of that first sentence. Even survivors have a hard time grasping the deep meaning of it, especially when they are fresh out of the situation.
What is trauma bonding? How does it affect victims and survivors? Why is it so difficult to break the bond? I will answer these questions and more below.
It is a term that warrants serious discussion. It is a term that when uttered will leave a lasting imprint on your mind. It is something that profoundly impacts those who it invades. It is emotional rape and its aftermath wreaks havoc on the victim.
Much like the fog can cloud a driver's view while on the road, so can Narcissistic Abuse obscure a victim's mind. So what can a person do to get out of the fog?
So, with all this talk on Narcissists and the destruction they leave in their wake, I'm sure you're asking yourself, "Well, what IS a Narcissist, anyway?"
Has the Narcissist in your life ever told you that if you don't give him what he wants, then there will be consequences? Were you given promises then have them taken away? Did the Narc use your vulnerabilities to his advantage? Does the Narc always want more no matter how much you give? Have you been made to feel guilty if you don't give in?
Narcissistic Abuse is extremely traumatic for survivors. An emotional warzone, if you will. That's why, more often than not, survivors are diagnosed with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD).
When you think of the word "boundary," what do you think of? Do you think of a fence bordering your yard? Do you think of the border between states or countries? What about personal boundaries?
From time to time, I will have guest bloggers post topics on Narcissistic or Emotional Abuse. Below is one such guest blog post. Have you experienced word salad with a Narc? Comment below. And as always, I appreciate you sharing your stories with me.
Have you ever heard the quote "Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned"? It originated from a 1697 play by William Congreve. Well, the same can be said about a Narcissist.....Hell hath no fury like a Narc you dare to disagree with or point out they're wrong.
If you've ever been on the receiving end of a Narc's tirades, you know how deep it can hurt you. Accusations, blame, rage - they are all just on the surface. It's really not you. If you listen closely, you will hear confessions!
Gaslighting is one of the most insidious forms of emotional abuse there is. Why? Because it is the Narcissist abuser's desire to drive you crazy. But why is it so dangerous? The term "gaslight" came from the 1944 movie starring Charles Boyer and Ingrid Bergman, which was based on the 1938 stage play of the same name. Boyer's character would purposely dim the gas lights in the home and then pretend not to know about it when Bergman's character asked about it. The main purpose is to make the victims feel like they are losing their mind. So how would that apply to you? Read on.
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Here you will find my most popular posts for easier discovery.
How Narcissists Make Sure You Never Solve Problems In A Relationship
The Fake Apology
How I Lost My Identity
Effects of Emotional Abuse
Emotionally Abusive Behaviors
Tightening Your Facebook Privacy Settings
Why You Should Never Defend Yourself Against The Narcissist's Smear Campaign
Going No Contact: A List Of What To Do And What Not To Do
An Open Letter To All Survivors Who Just Got Out Of An Abusive Situation
The Great Manipulator
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