It is a term that warrants serious discussion. It is a term that when uttered will leave a lasting imprint on your mind. It is something that profoundly impacts those who it invades. It is emotional rape and its aftermath wreaks havoc on the victim.
What is Emotional Rape?
Put simply, emotional rape is an intentional systematic act of violence on a person's emotions. I realize that calling it emotional rape is an extremely brutal term, but that is the harsh reality of it.
Your psyche is under vicious attack, and you become psychologically captive. More often than not, you won't notice what's going on while it's happening because the emotional abuse starts off so subtly.
The reason that emotional rape is so insidious and damaging is because it starts out slowly. Narcs will hook you in with promises to love you, cherish you, take care of you. They are adept at hiding their true selves until they feel that you are vulnerable enough to the abuse that WILL follow. To know that you won't fight back.
And believe me, like a leopard cannot change its spots, neither can a Narc. All the love they once professed to you, will change to degrading you, demeaning you, belittling you, and doing anything they can to tear down your self-esteem and your self-worth. They will brutally strip you of these things and leave you a shell of the person you once were.
Why do Narcs do this? It's all about having power and control over you. (Read my post Power and Control for further information.) The goal is to turn you into a complete mess, totally devoid of any worth and esteem. Until you are questioning your own sanity. Until they can turn around and claim that you are the crazy one!
The aftermath of emotional rape is like the aftermath of a tornado. It is a complete and total mess. You are completely torn apart. You will be left feeling an intense range of emotions - from fear to anger, from anxiety to shame, and from guilt to humiliation. I felt all of that and more. I couldn't trust my own thoughts or perceptions. I had extreme difficulty making my own decisions. I couldn't trust anyone. I felt unworthy of love.
To help me cope with the aftermath, I entered into therapy. You'll need to find a therapist well-versed in Narcissistic and Emotional Abuse.
Have you experienced emotional rape by a Narcissist? Comment below. And as always, I appreciate you for sharing your stories with me.
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