Narcissists are known for never accepting responsibility in their lives. This includes pitching in with household duties. And as such, they will end up making you feel like a servant.
Why would they do this?
Well, they feel they are above us. Narcissists are evil dictators who feel they don’t need to do such things. In their eyes, it is beneath them to assist us with household duties.
Oh, they may do ONE thing, then months later say, “Well, I helped out. Like the time I took out the garbage. You should feel lucky that I helped.”
You see, that’s the thing with Narcissists. They tell us we should be lucky and honored that they blessed us with their presence and assistance.
Despite that, they still feel the need to leave EVERYTHING of theirs laying around the house – clothing, dirty dishes, notebooks, papers, etc. They expect us to be “Suzy Homemaker” and keep the place tidy. Oh, but when we actually DO clean up after them, they make it known that we weren’t actually supposed to. Oh the irony!
My NX would yell at me for picking up his uniform that he’d leave laying around the house. Every day, he would say, “It’s not dirty. I’ll be wearing it tomorrow.” Yet, he’d leave it crumpled up in a pile on the living room floor. All I would try to do is pick it up and maybe drape his jacket over a chair. I’d get yelled at for that.
When we don’t pick up after them, they act like it was an unspoken rule that we were supposed to wash the dishes or pick up their paperwork. I would tell my NX that he had instructed me not to do it anymore. He’d turn around and scream, “Well, I didn’t mean that.” Oh but of course. He’d say I was actually supposed to clean the dishes and clean the house.
You see, Narcissists are a juxtaposition. They say one thing, but mean another. When we do that one thing, they yell at us and say we weren’t supposed to do it the way they said do and to do it another way. When we do it that other way, we get yelled at again.
When we have an entire morning or even a full day of cleaning the house, we decided to take a break. It’s only natural, right? But with the Narcissists, they see us taking a break and they yell at us. My NX once yelled at me, “What did you do? Sit on your fat a$$ and eat bon bons all day?”
Narcissists will make us feel like a servant. Cooking, cleaning, picking up after them. There’s no use protesting either because they will spew their wrath upon us. They will loudly proclaim that it is their right to sit down and relax after a hard day’s work. (And what do they think WE do all day, especially if we work outside the home?) That’s their entitled nature for you!
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