Have you ever wondered why Narcissists blame everyone else for things that go wrong? Have you wondered why Narcissists never own up to their mistakes? It’s because they don’t ever take responsibility for their actions. They never hold themselves accountable.
In their eyes, they are perfect and never do anything wrong. But yet, they can demean and devalue. They use people for their own gain. They intimidate others. They blame shift. They bully. They gaslight. They use their entire arsenal of tactics.
And still, they never hold themselves accountable. Why?
Narcissists lack empathy. They cannot place themselves in anyone else’s shoes. They don’t have the capacity to understand how their actions affect us. They can only see how it affects them. They are extremely egocentric in this respect. Everything around them is everyone else’s fault. Everyone else is responsible for what goes wrong in their lives.
To accept responsibility and to hold themselves accountable for wrongdoing means having to accept that they were wrong. This is something Narcissists cannot do. Admit they are wrong? No way. To admit they are wrong or make mistakes is showing vulnerability. And to show vulnerability opens them up to the possibility of rejection and judgment. Narcissists don’t handle rejection well. In fact, they scoff at the idea that anyone could do such a thing (reject them). When someone does reject them, it leaves a bad taste in their mouth and the Narcissists will set out to get revenge on the person.
To even be vulnerable in the first place, one must be honest with oneself. Narcissists cannot do that. They cannot be honest. It is in their blood to lie. Narcissists cannot accept that they have fault. They cannot accept that they have imperfections. So instead, they have to lie and create a better version of themselves to the public.
You will never see Narcissists hold themselves accountable for their actions. They don’t care about the consequences of their actions. They step over anyone to get what they want. Confronting them about any wrongdoing is setting yourself up for being on the receiving end of their Narcissistic Rage.
What have been your experiences with Narcissists not holding themselves accountable? Comment below. And as always, I appreciate you for sharing your stories with me.
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