Read the title of this article again. Let that sink in for just a moment.
Did you read it? Did you ask yourself why they wouldn't be nice? They certainly seem like they are. Did they change? Are they really acting sweet and nice? What Narcissists are not nice in the way we would normally think. They don't just act nice out of the goodness of their hearts. Why? Well, first, they'd have to have a heart! They act "nice" simply because they want something from us. They want information. They want us to do something for them. They think that if we can see their "good side" that we'd give them what they are seeking. They also may act like they've changed for the better. They may have a New Supply (NS) in their life. They may say things like this NS has calmed them in ways they weren't when they were with you. That this NS understands them and brings out the best in them. That's all a bunch of B.S. The NS is just their newest source of supply. (For more information of a Narcissist's sources of supply, please read my article Sources of Narcissistic Supply.) So what does a Narcissist's NS have to do with them being nice? They want to give the illusion that they ARE nice. That they've changed. So they play the "nice" card for as long as they can. They ask all these favors of you. WARNING: Don't ever do them any favors. Don't grant them what they request of you. Don't give in. Why? Because they will remember this and keep on asking things of you. They will think that because you've done something for them once when they asked "nicely" that they can keep getting you to do things for them. It's all part and parcel of their manipulation game. After all, they are master manipulators. (For more information on their manipulation game, read my blog post The Great Manipulator.) Bottom Line Narcissists are never nice. Their outer exterior is just a facade. A fake front. Underneath, they are still the manipulative bullies that we've seen. They are wolves in sheep's clothing. They are pretenders. Don't be fooled by their exterior. What are your thoughts on the Narcissist never being nice? Comment below. And as always, I appreciate you for sharing your thoughts with me.
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Robert Austin
10/9/2020 05:23:19 am
Their end justify their means.
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Leo
11/7/2021 10:46:55 pm
After 10 brutal years with a narcissist, separating was a god send. I never saw her as a narcissist, but my friends kept warning me. Finaly I was given a checklist, what an eye opener
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