Going no contact is exactly what is implied - no contact. It's a phrase used by Narcissistic Abuse survivors when reclaiming their life, their power and their voice. No contact means no phone calls, no texting, no emails. Nothing. Not even leaving a note on the windshield of their car. No contact by proxy (having someone else contact the Narc). No cyberstalking. No peeking at their Facebook page.
All of the above is easier said than done, I know. After the discard, you'll want closure. But there is no closure with a Narcissist. So how do you get that elusive closure? Below is a list of things of what to do and not do when going no contact with a Narcissist.
What to do 1. Block them. Whether the discard was the Narc's idea or yours, the first thing you MUST do is block them along every avenue possible. That means block their phone numbers, any and all email addresses, and any social media profiles they have (Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, etc). 2. Hear no evil. Part of going no contact also means implementing a strict "I don't want to hear about it" rule with friends and family. That means no discussing the Narcissist with anyone. 3. Live your life. Get out and do things. Go on a nature hike. Get a manicure. Hang out with friends. The more you do things that let laughter back into your life, the easier life will become. 4. Therapy. Find a therapist well versed in Narcissistic and Emotional Abuse. Begin to unravel the tangled web of jumbled up emotions. What not to do 1. Don't answer the phone. If you forgot to block their phone number, don't worry. Just don't answer the phone. Let it go to voicemail. Then delete the voicemail. Then block the number. 2. Don't meet accidentally. Change your route to work. Go to the gym on different times or days. Do your grocery shopping on a different day. Whatever it takes so you don't run into them. 3. Don't keep a foot in the door. When the discard occurs, remove all your belongings from the home. Don't leave something there in hopes you'll get it back. Cut your losses. 4. Don't obsess over your Narcissistic-Ex. If a memory crosses your mind, acknowledge it, but don't dwell on it. This is called mindfulness. (Read my post Mindfulness: A Useful Healing Technique to understand why it's so beneficial to healing and recovery.) 5. Don't imbibe. With bars and liquor stores everywhere, it's easy access to drown your sorrows. Alcohol doesn't do anything to ease your pain or sorrow. All it does it cover it up.
Now all of the above is all well and good....if you don't have children with the Narcissist. But what if you do have children with the Narcissist? Well, there is a whole new set of rules to follow. These rules fall under MINIMAL CONTACT.
My NX has custody of my children, so for me, it's harder than you might think. He imposes impossible rules....like very small windows of time that I can call. Or he tells me they'll be "busy" certain weekends and not to call. The children are consistently conveniently busy. It's a good idea to also follow these additional rules when you have children with the Narcissist. 1. Keep conversations strictly regarding the children. If possible, keep correspondence solely to emails. That way, if the Narcissist throws some verbal jabs your way, you can ignore those parts and reply only to the parts pertaining to the children. 2. Short and to the point. If you do have to see the Narcissist (especially for visitations), do what I do. I don't make eye contact with him. I focus on a point just behind him, so it appears that I'm looking at him. I also answer his questions with short responses. I don't show any kind of emotion when giving those responses. 3. Don't badmouth the Narcissist to your children. I have NEVER said anything mean or cruel about him to my children. Even if your child asks a question about the Narc. A perfect example was in July 2014 when my then 8 year old daughter asked me, "Why don't you yell at us like daddy does?" I had to choose my words carefully in my response to her. 4. Deal with the children's school. I do not rely on my NX for anything regarding my children's education. He has never been forthcoming with information anyway. So, I deal directly with their teachers and main office personnel. I send self addressed stamped envelopes to each teacher to receive schoolwork, artwork and report cards. But because my NX has custody, I go prolonged periods of time when I don't speak to my children. I once went 4 and a half months without speaking to them, despite me making several (and I mean several) attempts at contacting them, both by phone calls and emails. When I do speak to my children, I almost never deal with my NX. He may get on the phone sometimes and then I refer to Rules #1 and #2 above of keeping conversations strictly on the topic of the children and keeping my answers short and to the point. During the prolonged periods of time don't speak to the children, I don't hear from my NX. So, it's like full no contact anyway! Oh, I've gotten emails that are snarky and nasty. But those I ignore. Completely. No response at all. Unless the email contains information about the children. Then I reply to ONLY that part. What going no contact really means No contact is the only way to remove the toxicity from your life. Your Narcissistic-Ex was toxic to you. Removing the person from your life will result in you living a happy and healthier life. It's the ultimate way to reclaim your mind, soul and spirit. Going no contact will break the trauma bonds. It gives us the time to begin the path towards healing and recovery. Have you had an experience with no contact? Comment below. And as always, I appreciate you for sharing your stories with me.
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Laurie
9/4/2016 11:52:26 pm
Thank you so much for posting the extra part about parallel parenting with a narc - I am slowly learning how to navigate this awful situation and I don't often see advice for those of us that don't have the option of completely cutting out the narc. I would if I could, but it is what it is (my new mantra!).
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Jenn
9/5/2016 10:22:37 am
Laurie.....You are quite welcome. I completely understand your situation. I too have seen lots of information about going completely no contact. Very little is said about minimal contact. That's why I put it in this post. I mention what has worked for me and what I have learned along the way. You may find something else that works for you. If you do, let me know! I'm all for learning a new way in how to deal with my NX. (And I totally wish I could go complete no contact, but I can't. Not until my kids turn 18. And even then, I'll still see him when the kids get married, etc.)
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Ifka
11/30/2018 04:02:59 pm
If he is stopping you from seeing / being able to speak to the children as often as you are entitled to can you do this through social authorities/ court order..eg can he be ordered that he MUST allow you to speak to the children?
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Robert Smyth
6/2/2022 05:22:20 pm
My wife and I are experiencing this and think it's just another fad. Our adult child has made many horrific bad decisions in life and is now blaming us for everything. An absurd example is his girlfriend has high blood pressure and holds us directly responsible for it living 250 miles away with only having 3 contacts with her at all. He relishes not allowing us to have any contact mail, phone call, visit, or even to attend our grandchild's sports games. His sister was raised exactly the same way and is a wonderful person with a loving husband and children. Those that believe this stuff ask yourself this: Is it best for a child not to know or have any contact with his grandparents? It has gotten so absurd, that he has "No Contacted" not just us his parents, but his elderly grandparents. Advice to those swayed by this snake oil. Grow up, take responsibility for your own decisions learn to forgive people and to ask for forgiveness yourself. An American philosopher said: "You are not a product of your circumstances; you are a product of your decisions.
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Terrie L
10/3/2022 09:10:04 pm
I'm sorry that you are going through whatever you're going through with your son. I made the "decision" to 'date' my ex for 4 months. He was the sweetest guy, at first. Over the next four months he went from a sweet and kind young man to a suspicious jerk. At the end of those four months, I broke up with him. He threatened to kill me and the unborn baby. I had to break up with him repeatedly, because apparently it didn't stick, and he would come back like we were still together. Then he decided that I wanted to be with him and everyone else was keeping us apart. I spent the next four months trying to make sure someone, other than me, let him know what was happening with the pregnancy. Because if I spoke to him, he suddenly forgot we were broken up again. Every single time. The last time I spoke to him, willingly, while pregnant, he informed me that he was taking "the kid." That was the end for me. I went through his stepmom to give him updates after that. He would call from different numbers. He would have other people call and ask for me and then take their phone. He had his sister-in-law call and when I told her I would hang up if she gave him the phone, she got cussed out by him for not letting him speak to me. He called my family and friends and if they told him they couldn't force me to speak to him, they got cussed as well. He kept asking my mom if she was sure the baby was his. For the first year of the twins' lives he had 52 opportunities to visit. He came seven times. He told his father that I wasn't allowing him to see them. He told his stepmother that he didn't have to stop to see them, he saw them every day from the road when he drove past. He would text(because I stopped having phone conversations, because he would say one thing and then claim he didn't say that.) He would text to ask when he could see them. I would say let me know when and where and they will be there. He never followed up. He never made the effort. He called them once and our two year old daughter said, "Bye" and giggled as she disconnected the call. Fast forward ten years, his father hires a lawyer for him. The twins are eager to go. The first couple of times. Then They would beg, and I mean BEG to not go. They loved fishing before. They have not gone once since they went with him. They refuse and won't tell us why. He cut their hair while they were telling him they didn't want it cut. Then the judge asked them if they were willing to go to his house and they told him they were willing, but the judge didn't tell them they would have no choice. During their first six visits with him they went from outgoing little girls who spoke their minds, and like to go into the local dollar store alone, to quite withdrawn, almost silent little girls. They wouldn't walk to the counter in McDonald's with me sitting at the table where they could see me the entire time. They constantly apologized for every thing. The year they turned twelve, they were required to spend the month of July with him. He would not let them call me, he told me that I was a terrible mother, "an uneducated piece of shit", screaming at me, because I had the nerve to call to speak to my children. I sent the police to do a welfare check every week. The first week, the officer told me they seemed to be having a good time. The other checks I was told the children "appeared to be in good health". When they came home, their eyes were swollen from crying. They spent the next weekend with me, then next was supposed to be with him, but Hurricane Harvey disrupted so they got to stay with me. The following weekend he texted that he wanted to have them for my weekend to give them a birthday party. They refused. On his next visit they went. (No party, no gifts, no "Happy birthday, girls, nothing about their birthday) It was the weekend after September 6, 2017. They turned twelve on that birthday. The twins lawyer told us that we had to take them to the meet up, but they could tell him that they did not want to go with him. Over the following years things came out. He spent that month telling two twelve-year-old little girls that their mother never wanted them and that I only had them to get his money (He did not keep up with his child support).
Justina
9/5/2016 09:01:13 am
I have to go No Contact with my NarcMIL. She drives me crazy. It took me a long time to figure out what the bleep was wrong. All l knew was that l felt awful after leaving them. In general, l treat people way better than she and her family treated me and her son. And l really hated how they treated their son. (Lost child.) I refused tonsee them for years. Then one day, they just started acting nice. I thought, maybe they will be respectful now. Silly me, l did not recognize Hoovering. My last contact with them was so awful, l had to break contact. Some people are just broken. No contact works. Others dont understand but others are not living my life.
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Jenn
9/5/2016 10:25:59 am
Justina......Those who do not understand never had to deal with a Narcissist in their lives. You need to do what's best for you and your well-being. And it sounds like cutting all ties with your Narc MIL is what works for you. And that's awesome. How are you doing now? Be well. Take care.
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Jennifer
10/3/2016 05:07:23 am
My ex is so much of what you have written.
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Jenn
10/9/2016 02:39:33 pm
Jennifer.......You don't mention how old your daughter is. But I get the sensation that she is evidently old enough to see his behaviors and understand. Narcissists will do their darndest to turn any children against the other parent. My NX does his best too. But I am a firm believer that children see and understand more than we adults give them credit for. An example.....Two years ago, when my daughter was 8, I had my visit with them that lasted a week. My daughter said to me (twice in one day!!), "Why don't you you yell at us like daddy does?" So yeah.....kids are astute observers. Narcs don't understand that eventually what they do will backfire on them big time. The children will see. And the children will turn away from them.
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Lexi
12/26/2018 02:44:40 pm
I am about to start the processing of separating lives from my ex is who is everything described in these blogs. We have a 4 yr old daughter together and I am terrified for him to have any visitation rights. Yesterday for Christmas he was supposed to take her for only 2 hours, obviously that turned into 6 hours which was the bulk of the day. I was heartbroken to not be with my baby on Christmas day when I am the one who raised her pretty much on my own. I need some advice on how to do this and know she will be ok when he has her.
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Bj
3/26/2017 05:09:00 pm
I went NC for a year and was doing well when I heard he had cancer. I broke contact with two emails to him. Then we became friends on Facebook (He had had me blocked at the time of the discard). We were 'friends' for two months during which time I not only found out everything horrible he'd done but he began to stop posing health updates and replaced them with songs dedicated to the OW so I was subjected to their ongoing drama. I unfriended and blocked him again. I had wanted to be friends to see the health updates but he was using me even that way. No more. I'm out. It still is not easy.
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Julianna
7/3/2017 09:48:59 pm
Bj.......Sounds like what a Narc would do. Seek sympathy from "friends" and get you hooked back in. It's how they lure us back into their web. They spin tales of woe. No Contact is the way to go.
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Barb neverallowingitback
8/30/2018 04:20:50 am
Nc 3m6d after a 20y marrage . I never knew about narcs but I've lived it for 20y and with a vet attributing his actions to his ptsd. . No 4+ va diagnosed are real not fluff as he had me conned . Eyes wide opened
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Tomi Sue
4/15/2017 10:14:27 pm
I was married to a Narc for 17 years and we have two children together. I had to block my ex on my cell phone, I then set up an email account just for communication with him. This email account is monitored by my sister and a friend. They filter out what is not healthy for me to see and send me what I need. The three of us work together to formulate responses too. This has been HUGE in helping heal and stay healthy. It's also giving me evidence for taking him to court for contempt. Then I make sure that for visitation exchanges he doesn't even get to see me. Zero contact.
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Julianna
7/3/2017 09:51:04 pm
Tomi......Well done. That sounds like you've got a great handle on keeping him on Minimal Contact. Good for you.
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4/22/2017 10:03:25 am
I rescently had to seek a pfa for my nx. He is also the father of my 19 mo old daughter. I left him and our home of 7 years July 20th, just woke up packed my car and baby up and drove. Homeless and knew Id be with ky daughter willing to face whatever leaving him meant.Today I have my own place I share with a close girlfriend and had no job when I left. He continued to use meth and abuse me via phone in and out of rehab. He was caught three times in a week since I relocated ciming to my home and the last time 3:30am under the influence trying to get in my new house calling my name out front. At the pfa hearibg he showed up late and under the influence he couldnt even go in the courtroom when called to trial. The pfa was granted 3 years by the judge. We have a baby girl together but ge also has two other children by two diffrent women he doesnt take care of nor see. The pfa is a blessing because this man was torturing my life even after I left him. I feel sad yet able to really let go and heal and concentrate. I sufferred a nervouse breakdown and ptsd from his 8 months of constant abuse even physically at times. It was a nightmare and he put me thru hell.
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Julianna
7/3/2017 09:55:30 pm
Colleen..........I am so glad to hear you are safe and living a life of peace now. It makes me smile to hear that survivors are thriving. Good for you. :)
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Danni
5/21/2017 07:53:31 pm
Help . I havebeen discarded. And i feel like absolute shit. He has been planning on moving away from where i live and now that everytthing has worked out for him and has been gathering more women to boost his ego he has finally discarded me. I know it was for the best but i still feel like shit like i cant breath and feel so decieved and conned. While he lives the high life with loads of money i am broken suicidal and depressed and have nothing but a shell. Please anyone give me some positive outcomes
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Julianna
7/3/2017 10:00:00 pm
Danni........I am so sorry to hear you are going through this. I know the feeling. I truly do. Please please know that it will get better for you. I know that it doesn't seem like that now, but it will. Healing takes time. In the meantime, contact a therapist in your area. Therapy truly helped guide me in those first tumultuous months after the NX discarded me. If you feel like harming yourself, please please seek help. Call a crisis hotline or go to your local emergency room. I wish you the best.
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Kara P
5/30/2017 08:34:29 am
I hear you about the nex having custody. It's very painful to be subject to their ongoing games through the children. How does a person keep up their nerves against this? It's like water dripping on a stone...
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Julianna
7/3/2017 10:01:48 pm
Kara.........Ya know, some days I have no idea how I keep up the nerves. I just do. It's like running on auto pilot. I do the best I can with what I am given. Hang in there.
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Kim
6/7/2017 09:44:38 pm
What happens if your husbands exwife whos a narc have adult children who become the narcs flying monkeys and thru them the abuse continues? This is happening to us right now. Any help is appreciated.
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Julianna
7/3/2017 10:03:56 pm
Kim..........So your step children are the flying monkeys? If it's causing you and your husband anguish, you'll have to discuss with him the very real possibility of going No Contact with them. Hang in there.
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Karen
7/1/2017 08:19:09 pm
What if the narcissist is a Congressman and you do social justice work and the work is connected to his work?
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Julianna
7/3/2017 10:07:50 pm
Karen...........So you work for a Congressman? It is very difficult indeed when your boss or colleague is a Narcissist. There are ways to safely remain at a distance. What about dealing with the person's underling (person who immediately reports to them)? Perhaps switch lunch times. You can also use Grey Rock too......if you have to deal with this person, use short and to-the-point answers with no emotion. Hope this helps.
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Karen
7/4/2017 12:39:31 am
No, I was with a Congressman. He was my partner for several years.
Julianna
7/9/2017 12:34:54 pm
Karen......Oh ok, thank you for that clarification. Has the person launched a smear campaign? Has he made it difficult for you to do your work successfully? I wish you well. When Narcs are in a position of "power" like that, it makes it all the more difficult to stand up for ourselves and "prove" that we are not crazy like the Narc says we are. Hang in there.
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Lindsey Osborne
7/17/2017 02:10:17 am
It is great to read how other people deal with their NX's. My daughter thought no one else went through all the hassle and abuse that she was going through. Even in court he would tell so many lies to make him look the victim. Even now he is still doing the same. Wevwill have to look at some of the ways everyone has mentioned here about minal contact as my daughter has a 10 year old girl by her NX. This sort of abuse has been going on now for 9 years that my daughter has been dealing with. We are desperately trying to help her move on. It has taken this long to get a small piece of self confidence back.
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Susan
7/31/2017 07:37:18 am
Do your children recognize that your XN is a narcissist? I have three who do and one (GC) that is completely enamored with the outpouring of funds, trips and false paternal presence in his life. I'm curious how your children see him and more curious how you weren't awarded custody.
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My ex is a nx. He has a new wife that he uses to talk to my daughter. This has been going on for years and my daughter will say things to me that I know they have said. Like I don't care about her or whatever. This morning I said things about her dad. I don't want to. I need help
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Ally
12/26/2017 07:40:58 pm
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Angel
12/29/2017 05:44:52 pm
I was married to my xn for 19 years. No children together. I will have officially have had no contact since April 24, 2017. I have a 23 year old son from a previous marriage but the xn was the father. My son and I have no concact, my xn did some abuse to my son and so now even my son realizes no contact is best. Had my nx believe I really didn't want a divorce and he went and filed and we were officially divorced Sept. 12. I was not present during the proceeding. I have moved to a different state all during this since April. Going no contact is the best way if you don't have children together. It's almost a year and I feel so free. In the this year I am still trying to get use to being single and doing everything on my own bill and such. In April I am throwing a celebration because it's a year since I have been free! Lol
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Nana
1/4/2018 04:02:46 pm
My narc fling triggered my Bipolar Disorder and I begun to unravel. He got me fired, a day after he hit me for the first time. I don't know how but I got so attached to him even though he's never actually been sweet to me. I've texted him often after being discarded but he's been quiet. Its been hard. Recently he told a mutual friend I'm 'mental' and there's nothing he can do to change that. She suggested that he apologize and said some harsh words, so he flipped out. I haven't texted him since Jan first. It's only been a few days but I'm starting to feel less sad. I still hope he'll realize he was wrong for using me and come back to fix things - but I know he can't be trusted. It's who he is. He will always treat me like crap.
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Laurie
2/2/2018 01:59:33 pm
I dealt with my NX for almost three years. I was never allowed to leave him, or else he would do one of two things, 1. Freak out and be like oh no please don’t go, or 2. Argue with me about it to the point where it switched to HIM leaving me and not the other way around anymore. I was going to try and just be friends with benefits with him for like the last few months that I was with him, but that wasn’t good enough for him. He always had to be “working towards being in a relationship with me again” because I was “worth more to him than that.” YET, my NX would never actually efficiently start to build my trust in him again or ask me to go out with him on like a date. He would still have sex with other people and lie to me about it. But then when I complained about this to him, he would be like “well we are only just friends, and I can do what I want” meanwhile just the other day before this, he was saying that he couldn’t just be friends with benefits with me. If I ever pointed out his behavior, he would say that the reason why he acted this way was because I always patronized him and always made him feel guilty. And that I was mean and I wouldn’t stop doing that. I’ve had NC with him for about two weeks now and that’s only because he decided that he was done. He has me blocked on everything besides my phone number. Claims he doesn’t know how to block phone numbers. I don’t know. But yeah. Last time I tried to talk to him two weeks ago, he gave me the silent treatment. That’s what he’s famous for, he can give me the silent treatment for days or weeks at a time. Should I expect him to come back even though he is the one who has ME blocked on almost everything??
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NotHisVictim
2/21/2018 02:55:12 am
My Children are twelve and a half. My ex spent the first six months of the pregnancy stalking me. Then the first ten years of their lives seeing them two or three times a year. He tells me that I wouldn’t allow him to see them. That I ran and hid them from him even though we lived in the same place for the first twelve years of their life. He took me to court for visitation. I stopped going to the predetermined pick up and drop off location or I would wait nearby after he told the girls I didn’t love them enough to be there. I would not answer calls unless he had the children and then it was usually him badmouthing me and telling me how I was screwing up HIS children. After forcing them to stay the month of July with NO contact , he spent the month telling them that I never wanted them, that I don’t love them and that I only kept them to get his money. They came home with their eyes red and swollen from crying. He took them to the beach and let them get sunburned to cover up the crying but they finally told it. Since turning twelve they have refused to go back. He isn’t allowed to force them out of my car, but because I don’t want them to face him on their own, I drive to the predetermined location and they tell him they do not want to go. I make an effort not to say anything bad about him but there isn’t much can be said to a child who says, “Mom, dad yells and throws things ,” “Dad told us to pack our crap and get out of his house,” or ”mom, did you know dads a liar. “. Our last meeting he told the girls they don’t have to go with him, their mother is going to jail.
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I am currently trying to escape my narcissistic ex. We were never married but have had this emotional roller coaster of a relationship and share 1 child. He continues to make threats of taking me to court for full custody. However has never helped in supporting her financially and has used her in a since of trying to be able to meet me or talk to me. I have never kept him from her. However never wants to spend time unless i am going to. My 8 yr old is very smart and sees this and has made it clear she does not want me with her father and doesn't want to go with him because all he does is question her about me. I tty to use words wisely and apologize to her. I guess I am asking is there anything i can do or is there anything i should be worried about. I have read so much and see he is exactly what text books say. He can be charming and he can be mean, vile and vindictive. He has caused scenes in public at her swimmeets, church wherever he usually just calls me names loud enough for everyone to hear. I have tried in past to get restraining order but we live in small town he has a history with the judge. ( She awarded him full custody after his ex wife abandoned all of them) so he can also use his charms in attempt to make me appear to be the crazy one. I can avoid all calls text emails and he will accuse me of being mean and rude. When i have explained time and time again in the past that i wanted out of relationship.
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Lexi
12/26/2018 03:46:21 pm
I swear this sounds just like my situation!! I dont know what to do either. My daughter is only 4 and most of the time doesnt want to go with him either. However, he tries to bribe her with presents or candy she likes. She is so smart and it breaks my heart knowing he doesnt reslly care for her, he is using her to look like a great, responsible dad.
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Freedom
6/3/2018 08:21:57 pm
I did something I thought I would never do for anyone and that was move miles to another state for my narcissistic low life ex. When living in another state you really never know a person, their idios, their lifestyle, their morals, no matter how many times you've visited each other. But as soon as I moved here...I mean immediately after I moved every fantasy about love just disappeared. When you're falling in love you never see flaws, or maybe you're blinded. I've eventually made the best of living here. I've been to therapy, gotten involved in fitness, tried to make new friends but its an adjustment. Many times she has lied cheated betrayed humiliated embarrassed and ultimately proved that this wasnt love at all and she had no moral compass. The cycle didn't stop til she discarded me one last time. With that, like a terrible addiction, I vowed that I wouldn't relapse. I went no contact deactivating my social media accounts as well to build my strength and regain my power. Today I love her and always will but I meditated and prayed that I was able to get this far out and not look back. If anyone is listening this type of a relationship could mean death if you don't have the tools to get out and stay away. Love doesn't hurt. The moral of my story is I had to start loving me and recognizing these types of toxic relationships as such. I still have work to do on me...I deserve better, I am enough, I love me and will continue to practice good self
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Julia Ruttboone
7/20/2018 05:10:58 pm
I had a so called boyfriend who used me for my car then left me I really miss him and want him back
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Jillian Amabile
11/12/2018 07:18:13 pm
At this very moment I’m going through the what it feels like number one thousand discard from my ex but now I’m done he is refusing to give me back my things I have at his house and then he changed and said he threw them out . He also to me to drop dead and that I should kill myself. He was physically emotionally and mentally abusive . I actually feel he should be in prison . Thank god I got away with no baby after almost 2 years . It would of been criminal for my ex to become a father . I just hope the next target is a lot stronger than I was . I say I found him broken literally his social media act quote is perfectly broken in his bio and in turn he broke me while all I did was try to fix him. There is no fixing it . Tomorrow will be my first day of no contact . I have gone no contact before but it only lasted 3 days until he would email me. This time it will last the rest of
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Asset
2/3/2022 03:19:40 am
I have a big problem. What do you do when someone has decided they do not want you in their life anymore, suddenly you're every "ist" in the book, and abusive and they go no contact with you and you respect it. Then, months later they find you on a new social media platform they'd never be on and comment when you've mentioned your problem vaguely telling you to get help?
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