Perhaps you have just gotten out of a relationship with a Narcissist. Perhaps you’ve been away for a while. Perhaps the Narcissist is a parent. In any research you may have done, you might have come across the term Covert Narcissistic Abuse. What is it? Why is it so insidious?
In my youth, I envisioned a life with a partner who was loving and attentive. We’d have children, live in a beautiful home. The perfect happy life you dream about as a child. But that was not to be. My marriage was one that was riddled with narcissistic and emotional abuse, financial abuse, and even some physical abuse. I did not have the perfect life that I had dreamed about as a child. What I endured was nothing short of a nightmare. I still can’t believe this happened to me.
Social media has become a huge platform to share thoughts, ideas, funny things and the like. Unfortunately, not everyone uses social media to stay in touch with friends or relatives, or to share thoughts and ideas. Narcissists use social media in a more sinister way. They use social media to carefully construct posts to manipulate those on their friends list.
Whether the Narcissist discarded you, or you left the Narcissist, one thing stands clear. It should be over. Right? Not with the Narcissists. It's never over for them. In this guest blog, the hoovering method is discussed. Comment below the post to share your thoughts. And as always, I appreciate you for sharing your stories with me.
When I was with my NX, I struggled with wanting the abuse to end, but at the same time, I felt the only way to survive was to go along with the abuse and even defend him. What I felt and endured is known as Stockholm Syndrome.
Before my NX, I hadn’t even thought there was such a thing as financial abuse. But financial abuse is one of the very real results of being with a Narcissist and is more common than you think.
A Narcissist’s smear campaign is an underhanded way to destroy a survivor’s credibility and reputation. The Narcissist will spread vicious lies and rumors, all the while playing the “woe is me” card and playing the victim. Naturally, all we want to do is verbalize our innocence and defend ourselves against this smear campaign. But doing so is a very bad idea.
There are many facets to healing from Narcissistic and Emotional Abuse. One of these facets is rebuilding your self-esteem. More specifically, building and cultivating a healthy self-esteem. How is this done, especially when the Narcissists pull out every tactic in the book to tear us down?
Trauma of any kind is a complicated experience. It affects our psyche in so many ways. And when you experience trauma and cross paths with someone who hasn’t, it becomes even more complex because that outsider just doesn’t understand the full impact the trauma has had on you. Sometimes, this can lead to being retraumatized.
Even before my NX discarded me, I would relay to those closest to me about my experiences. Not only did I not get believed (which is something that all victims/survivors need), I would also be told things like, “What did you do to provoke him” or “Why didn’t you just leave if it was so bad” or even “He had a bad day at work. You should have just left him alone.” These statements are all a form of victim-blaming.
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Greetings, my warrior survivor friends! Welcome to my blog. I'm Julianna Jen, the owner and creator of this site. Check out the My Story section to read about why I started this blog. Thanks for stopping in. And feel free to comment on any post, share your own thoughts and stories. I would love to hear from you!
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How Narcissists Make Sure You Never Solve Problems In A Relationship
Tightening Your Facebook Privacy Settings
How I Lost My Identity
The Fake Apology
Effects of Emotional Abuse
Why You Should Never Defend Yourself Against The Narcissist's Smear Campaign
Emotionally Abusive Behaviors
Going No Contact: A List Of What To Do And What Not To Do
An Open Letter To All Survivors Who Just Got Out Of An Abusive Situation
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