Toxic individuals like Narcissists are afraid to show emotions. It all comes down to that they refuse to show any kind of vulnerability. It would destroy their self-perceived sense of power that they think they have.
Being vulnerable suggests that someone lets themselves be open to feeling emotion, criticism, the possibility of being incorrect, helpless and even weak. As healthy individuals, we run the risk of showing our vulnerabilities every day. When someone we love becomes sick, we feel helpless because we know there isn’t much to do but hope and pray for a return to health. That is the epitome of vulnerability – to feel powerless and helpless in such an event.
Narcissists refuse to show that kind of vulnerability. They cannot let go of the illusion that they are not as powerful as they think they are. For Narcissists to show vulnerability, they would have to have a baseline of normal human emotions. That is something they just simply lack.
Healthy individuals fear a myriad of things – from heights to snakes, from rejection to falling in love, and from becoming very ill to even death. There’s a saying that goes something like “Fear is what keeps us alive.” It keeps us moving forward through life. We need to choose whether to confront what makes us afraid or flee from it (that fight or flight response).
The only thing Narcissists are fearful of is being discovered for what they are. It means they can no longer pull the wool over their target’s eyes.
I’m not talking just about physical intimacy here, either. When people are truly intimate with each other, they show deep parts of themselves that require becoming vulnerable with someone. We can share our innermost thoughts and dreams, our secrets, our hopes.
Narcissists will never be truly intimate with another person because doing so would put them on the same plane as the other person. Narcissists hold steadfast to the notion that they are superior to everyone and therefore are more powerful than them. They cannot afford to become intimate with others in that context. They cannot afford to show their emotions – their hopes and dreams, their fears, their secrets.
Oh sure, Narcissists will give the appearance that they are intimate with you. At first. But once they procure what they want from us, they will slowly begin the vicious cycle of abuse. I mean, why show your hand at the beginning of the round? You wait until you know you can proclaim victory. That’s what the Narcissists do – they give off the appearance of intimacy (pretend to have feelings or pretend to have hopes and dreams), all just to hook us in.
Narcissists only show the illusion of emotions. What they show isn’t real. It’s a fake persona. They cannot run the risk of being truly vulnerable with anyone because that would destroy the world they created for themselves. A world that they live as the most powerful, most superior human on the planet.
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