When I was with my NX, I struggled with wanting the abuse to end, but at the same time, I felt the only way to survive was to go along with the abuse and even defend him. What I felt and endured is known as Stockholm Syndrome.
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Before my NX, I hadn’t even thought there was such a thing as financial abuse. But financial abuse is one of the very real results of being with a Narcissist and is more common than you think.
A Narcissist’s smear campaign is an underhanded way to destroy a survivor’s credibility and reputation. The Narcissist will spread vicious lies and rumors, all the while playing the “woe is me” card and playing the victim. Naturally, all we want to do is verbalize our innocence and defend ourselves against this smear campaign. But doing so is a very bad idea.
There are many facets to healing from Narcissistic and Emotional Abuse. One of these facets is rebuilding your self-esteem. More specifically, building and cultivating a healthy self-esteem. How is this done, especially when the Narcissists pull out every tactic in the book to tear us down?
Trauma of any kind is a complicated experience. It affects our psyche in so many ways. And when you experience trauma and cross paths with someone who hasn’t, it becomes even more complex because that outsider just doesn’t understand the full impact the trauma has had on you. Sometimes, this can lead to being retraumatized.
Even before my NX discarded me, I would relay to those closest to me about my experiences. Not only did I not get believed (which is something that all victims/survivors need), I would also be told things like, “What did you do to provoke him” or “Why didn’t you just leave if it was so bad” or even “He had a bad day at work. You should have just left him alone.” These statements are all a form of victim-blaming.
It's not always easy to recognize the warning signs of someone's toxic behavior. These signs, or red flags, can be hard to detect at times. So writing this blog was essential in that it can help you what to look out for.
In today’s world of technology and the internet, there is so much information that we can discover that is right at our fingertips. If you’ve just discovered the term “Narcissist,” chances are you’ve also heard the term Malignant Narcissist.
Disagreements and arguments with others is a part of life. But when those arguments are with Narcissists, it becomes a whole different ballgame. It’s a bad idea to argue with Narcissists.
Abuse isn’t love. You don’t go around destroying people you claim to love. It’s that simple. But sometimes, it’s hard for victims to understand the severity of that first sentence. Even survivors have a hard time grasping the deep meaning of it, especially when they are fresh out of the situation.
Boundaries are vital to maintaining your physical and emotional well-being. With Narcissists, you need to keep in mind that they will tests these boundaries any chance they get. Stay steadfast in your boundaries. This guest post explores how you can make and keep better boundaries to ensure the Narcissists don't wiggle their way back in to your healing soul.
Entitlement is one of the characteristic traits of Narcissists. Entitlement is, quite simply, the special treatment that Narcissists feel they deserve. So why do Narcissists have such a high sense of entitlement?
In a nutshell, parental alienation is when the narcissistic parent does what it takes to keep the child or children away from the non-narcissistic parent. It really is an unfortunate thing to happen because one parent always ends up feeling shortchanged.
Once you have that light bulb moment and begin to see the Narcissists for what they are, you will begin to see their fake persona begin to shatter. You will see the Narcissist scramble to do damage control.
When we are in a Narcissistic relationship, we are not aware of the constant state of stress that our bodies are in. We also are not aware of what that constant state of stress does to our bodies. Narcissists will leave you feeling utterly exhausted.
I have asked myself that question numerous times. They plot. They scheme. They smear our good name. They destroy our spirit. They want to see us fall. They want to see us “lose it” so that they can point the fingers and say we’re the unstable ones. Why do they do this? Why do Narcissists hate us so much?
Have the Narcissists ever told you that you are making something out to be bigger than it is? Have the Narcissists ever told you that you’re overreacting? What the Narcissists are doing is minimizing your experiences. They are saying that what you feel doesn’t matter. It’s not a big deal, they say. Minimizing is a big deal, actually, and it is a form of control.
Narcissists hide in plain sight. So how can you keep an eye out for them if you don’t know where they are and how to spot them? Below are several tips on how you can spot them more easily.
Narcissists do not come right out and admit any wrongdoing, nor do they outright confess their sins. When dealing with Narcissists, it’s always best to listen closely. Listen closely, readers, for Narcissists will let you in on a little secret – they confess their sins through the art of projection.
No matter how long you've been on the path of healing and recovery from Narcissistic Abuse, you will continually learn new things to propel you forward. I learned one such thing recently. The power of Meh.
I get it. Your love for the Narcissist was so real. You were sure the Narcissist felt the same way, too. Unfortunately, Narcissists cannot and do not love anyone. Their love was not real. It was all fake. They built their “love” under a fake persona. Their false self.
“He always made me feel like I was wrong, you know?” Every time I think back to my relationship with the Narcissist, I would think of this quote from the movie A League of Their Own. No matter what I did, what I said, how I dressed, how I chose to parent, he always made me feel wrong.
Even six years post-discard, I’m feeling guilty. Even with all the therapy I’ve had, the support I’ve been given and the information I have learned along the way, I’m feeling guilty. I have what I term The Narcissistic Abuse Survivor’s Guilt. I’m wondering if any of you have felt like this. So I thought to write a blog post about the subject.
Toxic individuals with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) are not easy people to deal with on a daily basis. In fact, they are downright difficult. So how can you deal with someone with BPD without compromising your own self-esteem and awareness? Below are several tips on how.
I get it. You were in love. You had built a life with the Narcissist. But you were dealt a huge blow when the Narcissist discarded you like yesterday’s garbage. Whether the discard was a week ago, a month ago, or a year ago, one thing is for sure. You can’t stop thinking about the Narcissist. But you want to. But how?
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