Narcissists do not come right out and admit any wrongdoing, nor do they outright confess their sins. When dealing with Narcissists, it’s always best to listen closely. Listen closely, readers, for Narcissists will let you in on a little secret – they confess their sins through the art of projection.
In my first blog on Projection, I defined what projection is and listed some examples of how projection is used. In this post, I want to dive more into why Narcissists use projection.
If you recall, projection is defined as transferring your own ideas, feelings and opinions onto another person. That’s what Narcissists do when they accuse you of something.
But why do Narcissists use projection?
Knowing what we know about what projection is, we can begin to ask ourselves why someone would use this kind of tactic on another person. What purpose does it serve?
Narcissists use projection solely for the purpose of not being discovered. They don’t want people finding out who and what they are. So they deflect their imperfections onto others. Narcissists will accuse you of cheating, of being the unstable one, being a liar, or being a deadbeat parent.
Narcissists don’t want to admit wrongdoing, so instead of being introspective, they spew their negative feelings and thoughts onto you. They loudly proclaim that they are never wrong. So to combat that, they justify their bad behavior by blaming others and accusing them for the things that they themselves are doing.
“The narcissist will use any method available to project. This means fabricating, distorting, assigning significance to, or exaggerating what you said or did as ‘evidence’, and / or quoting third party allies which can also be fabricated.”
By the Narcissists projecting in any manner necessary, they avoid having to accept responsibility for their actions. Even when you confront them, they will deny the claim and turn it around back onto you.
Why do they use projection? Because they can’t handle accepting their faults. We all have them. Narcissists just can’t accept that because they feel that they are perfect and superior to all others.
When you are the target of the Narcissistic projection tactic, you will no doubt rush to defend yourself and prove that you are not what they say. Rushing to defend yourself is exactly what the Narcissists want. They will see you as desperate, unstable and crazy. They will just turn and say that you are proving their point for them. It is a struggle, and one that you will not win.
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