No matter how long you've been on the path of healing and recovery from Narcissistic Abuse, you will continually learn new things to propel you forward. I learned one such thing recently. The power of Meh.
That's right, readers. The power of Meh.
What exactly is "meh" and what does it have to do with Narcissistic Abuse recovery? According to the Oxford Dictionaries, meh is defined as "expressing a lack of interest or enthusiasm." So when applying it to your recovery, you can say "meh" about the Narcissist in your life. But how can you do that after all the Narcissist has done? It doesn't come easily, readers. As a friend recently pointed out, one aspect of recovery is when you can say "meh" to all the Narcissist's craziness. Saying meh gives you this odd sense of power. Okay, okay.....it sounds silly, I know. But hear me out. How does it give you power? When you look at or think of the Narcissist, you can say "meh." When you can show indifference towards the Narcissist or show no signs of interest, you are taking a step towards freedom. It takes practice. I get that. Your love was real, so it's only natural to be torn between what you feel and what you see before you. The Narcissist shows no feeling or interest towards you, except for what use you provide to them. So why can't you begin down your path of recovery by saying "meh"? Meh to the Narcissists. Meh to all they do to us. Meh to their antics - the projection, the gaslighting, the lying, the word salad, the manipulation. Meh to their abuse. Making "meh" a part of your recovery will certainly feel silly at first. But the power of meh will supply you with an inner power. I've taken to saying meh quite often with regards to my NX's tactics. It has helped me get through many difficult nights. Have you used meh in your recovery? What have been your results? Comment below. And as always, I appreciate you for sharing your stories with me.
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Alice
2/15/2017 08:46:04 am
I am 2 years out almost, from a 6 year "manipulationship" I was vulnerable when i met who i had thought was all my dreams coming true at once.... he managed to keep the illusion going while creating some kind of unfathomable hell... I also have had much of this in my life from friends and family... am currently trying to recover in the home of my severe NPD mother,... this has hindered my healing massively.. every so often i have a moment of clarity.. i realize, i had always done my best to be amazing friend/daughter/fiance... I made decisions based on the knowledge i had.. thinking everyone had good in them... just trying to live.. and in rising above all they have done to me.. knowing this was THEIRS!!! it is an almighty great big Meh!!! to all of it, and the lot of them. and i do find a sort of peace... gladness to be who I am.. and way more protective than i ever have been before of myself. In search of authenticity.. like mining for gold...
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Jenn
2/22/2017 06:10:37 am
Alice.......I am sorry for all that you endured. Healing will take time, as I'm sure you know. Just hang in there. Those moments of clarity you have? That's a good sign that you're heading in the right direction of healing. We survivors know that we have done the best we could. You were the best daughter/friend/fiancee that you could be. Rising above is the mark of a survivor. Keep holding on to that gladness in who you are. Be that person. Hang in there.
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kaisha
3/4/2017 03:20:44 pm
Glad you got out! MEH is Huge! Also, try Falun Gong, check it out at www.falundafa.org It is taught for free; five easy exercises. Will really help you heal. Keep us posted!
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Jenn
3/5/2017 10:15:26 am
Kaisha.......The power of Meh may not work for everyone though. It could very well even anger the Narcs even more if you say it in front of them.
Heather
5/21/2017 12:38:19 pm
I discovered grey rock and it changed my life. 18 years together 22 married. When I learned "meh" and became as uninteresting as possible he faded away. He tried every weapon in his arsenal...threats intimidation love pity tears and I learned not to respond negatively or positive. His "toy" is "broke"
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