When I began my healing journey, I came across the term Narc-Dipping. I had never heard that term before. The more I read, the more I began to understand that Narc-Dipping is an unhealthy thing for survivors to take part in.
Narc-Dipping is when survivors regularly “check in” on the Narcissists, either by peeking on their social media pages or by texting/calling them. It also means not re-reading old texts or emails, too. Don’t even look at old photos of them.
What does Narc-Dipping really do?
When we engage in Narc-Dipping, we are continually subjecting ourselves to what the Narcissists put us through. We are still playing their game. We are still engaging in their lives.
If we are No Contact, Narc-Dipping re-opens those wounds. It’s like ripping a band-aid off too slowly. The pain and anguish returns. We feel horrible all over again. Sometimes, Narc-Dipping can happen after being No Contact for months or even years. It almost feels like we have to start our healing journeys all over again when that happens.
Why we Narc-Dip
Many times, we Narc-Dip because we want to see what the Narcissists are up to. We want to know if they are as miserable now as they made us. If we hear through the grapevine that they have a New Supply, Narc-Dipping gives us the opportunity to peek into their lives without having to talk to them. We are curious to know if they are happier with the NS. (Hint: They aren’t happier!)
What can we do about it?
The only thing to do is go No Contact. That means blocking them on all forms of social media, blocking their cell phone and/or home phone, and blocking any and all email addresses they have. Completely cut them out of your life.
When you don’t go Narc-Dipping, you aren’t getting caught up in the trap. You aren’t playing their game. You see, they want us to still feel horrible about ourselves even after the discard. Why? Because they want us to think that the downfall of the relationship was entirely our fault.
When we don’t play their game, we take away their power. The old saying of “a leopard never changes its spots” is quite true. We all know Narcissists don’t change. So their ooey-gooey posts about being oh-so-in-love are just a façade. The Narcissists are still in the lovebombing stage. They need to keep up appearances until they have the NS hooked.
Don't envy the Narcissists. Their seemingly happy life won't last for long. The best thing we can do is go complete No Contact. Don't go Narc-Dipping. Don't play into their game.
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