Healing from Narcissistic and Emotional Abuse is difficult at best. Why? It isn’t fair that we are the ones who have to do all the work. Much of that work comes in the form of finding the right therapist to conduct one on one counseling with us.
There are numerous therapists out there who special in a wide variety of areas and who claim to have all the right stuff when it comes to help you. But I must urge you to find a therapist who specializes in Narcissistic and Emotional Abuse. Finding the right therapist is essential to your healing.
Why it’s essential
If you just close your eyes and point at the first person in the directory, that therapist may not provide you with the proper tools you need to propel you forward in your healing journey.
While I had some decent therapists in my journey, none were as helpful as the woman I had seen in the city I currently live in. A friend had recommended the facility in town. I decided to check it out. It’s a women’s counseling center, so I knew they catered to women’s healing and recovery in all sorts of circumstances.
What I found was comforting to say the least. The therapist I began seeing had experience with assisting women through emotional abuse recovery. I was ecstatic to learn this. I knew she’d be the one to finally give me the tools I needed.
And I was right.
I was finally properly diagnosed with PTSD and it took several sessions to get to the nitty gritty of my recovery process. She suggested EMDR therapy. (Please read my blog post EMDR: How It Helped Me for more information.)
What happens when you find the wrong therapist?
Well, for one thing, that therapist can provide you with an incorrect healing path to go down. That person can diagnose you with something you don’t have, as what happened to me. One of the first therapists I had diagnosed me as having Borderline Personality Disorder. This is a diagnosis that my NX has never let go of because in his mind, it proves that I was the crazy one.
Finding the wrong therapist can also manifest itself when you see one of the opposite sex as yourself. I had once seen a male doctor for 30 minutes while I was in the mental health ward of a hospital for 6 days. The doctor presumed to know all about me from the little he saw in my file. He didn’t bother to listen to anything I had to say and instead just said, “You are the patient. I am the doctor.” Yeah, that didn’t help.
So if you are a woman, find a female therapist. And vice versa if you are a male survivor. In this way, you will find it easier to open up and relate.
Finding the right therapist will not be the cure-all when it comes to Narcissistic and Emotional Abuse recovery. But it will be a vital tool in your healing journey.
What experiences have you had with therapists? Comment below. And as always, I appreciate you for sharing your stories with me.
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