When a person enters into a 12 Step program, one of the first things he or she learns is that admitting to the issue propels him or her into recovery. It’s the first step. Admitting what’s wrong. When we admit to our hurt, we essentially set the wheels in motion to begin our recovery.
How does admitting to our hurt help? Doesn’t it cause us more pain?
Well, yes. It won’t be pretty. We’ll have to dig deep down within ourselves and acknowledge what we endured. Acknowledging what happened is the first step. If we stuff it down, we will do more harm than good to ourselves. I touched on this “stuffing it down” issue briefly in my blog post What It Really Means To Stay Strong After A Narcissistic Relationship.
Admitting to our hurt actually does help us. When we open up about our experiences, we are putting a name to it. We are saying it out loud. We are taking our healing journey seriously. I know we all want to heal and recovery from what the Narcissists did to us. Heck, I still get angry at my NX for what happened. For the fact that he still tries to interject his tactics every so often. I know I’ll be on my healing journey for quite some time.
When we admit to our hurt, we are saying “No more!” We are taking a stand. We speak out. We speak up. Yes, speaking out about our experiences is going to be really scary. Many times, we will want to just hide under the covers of our beds and not come out for a day or a week. I’ve been there. I’ve felt the most vulnerable I’ve ever felt every time I put my experiences out there. Like somehow if my NX or the NS found this blog or the Facebook page of this same name, that the NX would release incredible rage. I know someday he’ll find the page. Or she will.
Finding a safety net
When we are on our healing journeys, we want to find like-minded individuals. There are numerous online support groups to assist us when we begin our journeys. Admitting our hurt out loud to others (even if it’s in an online community) can do us a world of good. These online communities are our safety nets.
If we stay afraid and hidden, we will be letting the Narcissists win. They want to scare us into silence. When we admit to our hurt, we are putting an end to the fear. We are reclaiming out lives.
How did admitting to your hurt make you feel? Was it a cathartic release? Comment below. And as always, I appreciate you for sharing your stories with me.
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