One of the hallmark traits of Narcissists is their grandiose thinking. This line of thinking saturates every pore of the Narcissist’s personality and is the basis for which they operate.
Merriam-Webster defines grandiose as being “characterized by affectation of grandeur or splendor or by absurd exaggeration” and “implies a size or scope exceeding ordinary experience but is most commonly applied derogatorily to inflated pretension or absurd exaggeration.”
How does this apply to Narcissists?
Narcissists exaggerate their own importance. They feel they deserve success and will do what it takes to get it, even if that means stepping over people along the way.
Narcissists feel they are so superior to everyone around them. They will look down upon those who they feel don’t meet their equal intellect. My NX has never stopped displaying his self-proclaimed superior intellect. When I went to visit my children in May 2012, he proceeded to inform me that the roads and highways where they were living were always full of traffic and if I wasn’t careful, I could get lost. So he proceeded to give me directions to their house. He didn’t stop to consider that I had already looked up on Google Maps how to get around the area. He also didn’t reflect on the fact that I had driven across country twice by myself….without Google Maps.
You see, Narcissists are patronizing in this way. They feel their superiority will surpass everyone else’s every single time. In their eyes, they are beneath no one. My NX never considered that I was smart enough to write down directions beforehand.
What the grandiose thinking really means
Narcissists and their grandiose thinking can spell trouble for the supply sources they gather. Narcissists put themselves first above everyone else because they feel they are more important that you. So if you dare to voice how you feel or that there is something you’d rather do (instead of what the Narcissist wants to do), they will let you know. They will go on a diatribe about how what they want and need is more important. They’d say things like, “Why are you being so selfish? Don’t you care about what I want?”
Their grandiose thinking also causes them overinflate their own achievements and talents. It’s because they have such an important view of themselves that they have to boast about any real or imagined achievements or talents. I discuss their false image and their achievement-boasting abilities in my blog post Why Narcissists Claim To Be So Accomplished.
Narcissists have an insatiable need for making themselves look good in public. They can never let on to anyone that they are defective. So instead, they pad their resumes and boast of things that they never accomplished or received. They must always appear captivating and appealing to others.
Even if you really are smarter than the Narcissists, you should never go in a “battle of the wits” with them. They will insist that they are smarter than you every time. They will pull pieces of info out of the blue and spout off quotes that make them sound important. Don’t bother engaging with them on any level at all.
Have you had experience with a Narcissist and his or her grandiose thinking? Comment below. And as always, I appreciate you for sharing your stories with me.
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