Some experts say Narcissists can change. I’m not so sure about that. I mean, just because I haven’t seen it happen, doesn’t mean it can’t. However, more often than not, Narcissists cannot be fixed.
In my blog post Can A Narcissist Change, I discussed at length how it is ingrained in a Narcissist’s personality to be the way they are. Because they feel they are so superior to others, they never admit to any mistakes or any wrongdoing.
It is for this reason that I feel like Narcissists cannot change or be fixed. My NX has shown me time and time again that he will remain the same evil person underneath. Despite his numerous claims that he is a “changed man” because of his NS, he has continued to make snide comments, spew hateful words and use a threatening tone when communicating with me via email. The why Narcissists cannot and will not take any responsibility for their actions. To do so, would admit that they have faults. This is something that the Narcissists cannot admit to. The mask they don for the world to see is one of perfection. And because they feel they do no wrong, they are then justified in everything they do.
Furthermore, in order to even change at all, the Narcissists would have to admit that they need help. This is something that they will never admit to because they feel that they don’t need the help. But supposing that they did attend therapy with you under the pretense that they want to better the marriage and “save” the marriage. Please understand that this is a ploy to manipulate the therapist into siding with them. (Read my blog post Narcissists And Counseling: Why It’s A Bad Idea To Attend Therapy With Them for more information.)
The inevitable If they showed any “change” at all, it’s only for a short period of time. This is to give the appearance that they have indeed changed for the better. But like my NX, they will inevitably show their true nature. It doesn’t matter what you do or say, you will enrage the Narcissist. It’s nothing that you said or did, don’t worry. It’s just that the Narcissists will think that you did something and so in their minds, their actions are justified. Bottom line Out of all the information I’ve ever read on the subject combined with my own experience on the issue, I firmly believe that Narcissists cannot be fixed. To even try to change them or convince them to get help is futile. It is wasted energy. I know we want the most wonderful relationship in the world and to live happily ever after. But you will not find that with the Narcissists. Don’t undertake the task of trying to change the Narcissists yourselves. It won’t end well. How did you realize the Narcissist can’t be fixed? What led you to that conclusion? Comment below. And as always, I appreciate you for sharing your stories with me.
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