If you've ever been on the receiving end of a Narc's tirades, you know how deep it can hurt you. Accusations, blame, rage - they are all just on the surface. It's really not you. If you listen closely, you will hear confessions!
Has the Narc ever done or said any of the following?
1. Accused you of cheating.
2. Accused you of being a pathological liar.
3. Told you that you are mentally unstable.
4. Claimed that you're a deadbeat parent.
5. Accused you of being selfish.
6. Accused you of abusing the children.
7. Accused you of being the abusive one.
The above examples are called projection. Projection is defined as transferring one's own feelings, emotions and actions onto others. The Narc accuses you of cheating? You can bet that they are the one cheating. The Narc accuses you of being a liar? You can bet that they are the one doing the lying. The Narc accuses you of being crazy and mentally unstable? You can bet that they are the mentally unstable one.
The Narcissists knows they do all these things. But to avoid being discovered, they will accuse you of being and doing those things they are accusing you of! It's solely to throw you off the track of finding out who and what they are.
The Narc feels so strongly about his accusations, and projects so convincingly, that the victim will eventually begin to believe them. It's the classic Pavlovian conditioning. The victim is trained to believe things over a period of time, much in the way that Pavlov trained his dogs.
The more the Narc uses this tactic, the more the victim will be taught to feel sorry for them. It doesn't matter what "crime' they think you committed, all that matters is you begin to make excuses for them and attempt to see the situation from THEIR point of view! That's the exact kind of twisted web of logic the Narc wants you to be tangled in! You begin to sympathize with their pain and begin to walk on eggshells around them.
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