Not long ago, a reader asked this question. I even had a bad day to the point where I began asking the question too. Why do Narcissists always seem to be winning and on the top? Why do they seem to catch all the breaks?
To answer that question, we need to remember what Narcissists are.
Narcissists use those characteristics to their advantage. They schmooze with the higher-ups in companies to get the promotion. They “make friends” with all the right people so that they can claim they are oh so important. They lie about their accomplishments to seem more important than they really are. They don’t care who you are, they will step over you to get what they want. They don’t care who they hurt.
Out of all the things I’ve learned over the course of the last several years regarding Narcissists and Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD), I realized one important thing. They will remain “on top” until they are found out. Until their mask starts to slip.
But how do they ever GET there? How do they get to the top and catch all the breaks?
This question has haunted me for the last several months. My NX seems to “have it all” now – a purchased home, my children, and now a new bride. (Though I do feel like he used people to even buy the home in the first place.) Anyway, it’s because of the above characteristics and tactics that makes it seem like the Narcissists are always winning.
They play the victim and outsiders believe them. They are just that convincing. They are master manipulators. They know just how to use people to get what they want. Which is likely why they seem like they are always catching the breaks!
Do I wish I could own a home again? You bet! But I can never have that because the NX ruined my credit. I am doing all I can to correct that now though. Do I wish I could even adopt a child with my now husband? Oh absolutely! But because of my criminal record, there is no way we’d ever get approved. My NX has custody of my children, and I can’t even adopt a child. So yeah, it seems like my NX is winning and always on top.
Is there anything we can do about it?
Not really, no. If we try to warn others of the Narcissists or spend our days trying to expose the Narcissists for what they are, it’s likely to backfire on us. It will just give them the fuel they need to point at us and say, “You see? She is crazy and unstable.”
The only thing I think we CAN do is continue to speak our truth. Not necessarily name the Narcissist by name. But speak about our experiences. Speak out about your feelings, your emotions. Speak out about the tactics used.
Continue to educate yourself, too. Keep reading up about Narcissists, Narcissism, and NPD. Knowledge is power, my warrior survivor friends. The more you know, the less the Narcissists can do to us.
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