Language is at the core of what we are as a society. It’s how we communicate our wants and needs. Sometimes, using a slightly different word to convey something can wind up giving a whole different meaning to that thing we are talking about. When we talk about something as serious as domestic violence, sometimes we use language that doesn’t carry significance and thus, the situation is downplayed.
Minimizing abuse To minimize is to reduce to the smallest amount or greatly underestimate the true importance of something. So when domestic violence victims tell themselves, “Oh it’s not that bad,” essentially they are not admitting to the depth of the problem at hand. Or if they do realize the severity, they don’t want to admit it to others. The language we use The language we use to talk about domestic violence makes it seem less dangerous than it really is. It’s vital that victims and survivors call it what it is – violence. No matter how unimportant the act seems to the victim, it’s essential to begin using the phrases and terminology that will garner awareness and bring justice. Below are just a few phrases that victims will often tell themselves (and others) to minimize the severity of the abuse:
The language we use to talk about domestic violence makes it seem less dangerous than it really is. But how is it less dangerous? When victims don’t immediately recognize the severity or even downplay it, they are essentially staying in a relationship that may end up escalating into something more violent. By the same token, when victims downplay the severity, the courts and the authorities won’t take it seriously either. They may say, “Well if it wasn’t that bad, why are you making a complaint then?” Authorities may not have the “incentive” to investigate the crime. The importance of language Words are powerful and when used in proper context can have a significant effect on how society views certain situations. The language we use to describe domestic violence situations is the one thing as a society that we do have control over. Using stronger words to convey the severity can garner more widespread awareness. Even the way we communicate can help – make direct eye contact and use urgency in your voice. Use more powerful words. When we use words that carry more weight to them, then others around us will know we are serious about our situations. Bottom line I knew what I endured wasn't right. But I kept downplaying it. I minimized my own abuse. But now? Now, I use strength behind my words when I speak or write. How have you changed your voice in your healing journey to speak out about what you endured? Comment below. And as always, I appreciate you for sharing your story with me.
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