All survivors want in the aftermath of Narcissistic Abuse is to thrive, and not merely survive. It IS possible to thrive after Narcissistic Abuse, my friends. It just takes time and patience.
Immediately following the discard, we are faced with a myriad of worries and fears. How will we move forward? How will we support ourselves? How will we heal? Will we even heal at all? So many questions will swirl around in our heads. So many worries. So many fears.
But you can thrive AND survive, my warrior survivor friends.
“The last thing an abuser wants is for his partner to thrive after they’ve split up, since that would prove that he is the problem.”
Thrive for you
It isn’t enough to thrive to “get back at” the Narcissists for what they put us through. It IS enough to thrive for yourself. Thrive so that you live a happy and healthy life. Thrive so that you can move forward to the future with no fears or regrets. Thrive so that you can achieve success in your life – in work, in school, or even with a new hobby.
But what does thrive even mean?
To thrive means to flourish and grow in your surroundings. To move through life in a happy and carefree way. There really is a deep meaning behind the Vulcan saying “Live long and prosper.” It is the wish that you not just live a long life, but that you also succeed in life. That you live in happiness and success. That you grow and flourish, like a flower just waiting to bloom in the spring.
So when you “thrive for you” after what you endured, you are ensuring that you are giving yourself the best life possible. That you are securing a happier, more successful life for yourself after the Narcissist.
Dealing with the fears
It is only natural to have fears after what we’ve been through. It is natural to wonder, “Will I make it?” or “Will I succeed?” It is okay to tread water for a while and wonder these things. But do take steps forward every day. Do something to ensure that you are doing what you can to move forward.
Keep a journal, talk to friends, join a support group. These are all things that you can consider when you face the fears. The Narcissists want us to cower in fear. They do not want us to grow and become stronger, both in spirit and in actual physical strength. They don’t want us to verbalize what we endured. They rely on us staying silent, so that their reign of terror can continue to rule over our lives.
So facing the fears head on can destroy the Narcissist’s goal – to destroy us, our spirit and our life.
Thriving after Narcissistic Abuse to me means living a life free of abuse, free of fear, free of silence. I no longer feel ashamed for what I endured. I haven’t felt that kind of shame for several years now. Thriving to me means being happy with who I am. Thriving means growing in a space where I feel comfortable and safe. Thriving means blooming like that spring flower.
How have you thrived after Narcissistic Abuse? Comment below. And as always, I appreciate you for sharing your stories with me.
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