Ever hear of the phrase that someone can “dish it out but they can’t take it”? Yeah, Narcissists are a shining example of those who just do not take criticism. Ever. Oh but they can dish it out!
At a Narcissist’s core is their false self. They will do anything to protect that. They have an ability to toss out critical remarks like they’re going out of style. Narcissists use these remarks to tear down their victims so that the victims are left feeling defective, alone, worthless and unlovable. It’s how Narcissists operate – they verbally attack others in order to feel superior.
But when the tables are turned, the Narcissists strike out like a hurt animal. They feel their core being is coming under attack and will do what they can to protect that false image. They are always under a “self protective” mode. They elect to protect that false image by denying the criticism being given to them! They very visibly show their anger towards those who dish it back at them.
“When criticized, narcissists show themselves woefully incapable of retaining any emotional poise, or receptivity. And it really doesn't much matter whether the nature of that criticism is constructive or destructive. They just don't seem to be able to take criticism, period. At the same time, these disturbed individuals demonstrate an abnormally developed capacity to criticize others.”
Dishing it out is what Narcissists do best. It’s how they operate. It’s all they know.
This line of defensive maneuvering leads the victim/target feeling bewildered. The victims often begin to try harder to be “better” at not being so critical, they begin to walk on eggshells and they stop wanting to communicate with the Narcissist.
Narcissists cannot communicate like normal, healthy people. They do not know how to accept instances when others are forthcoming about certain grievances they have. Narcissists become defensive and lash out via the way of counter-criticism, payback and rage. This is the exact line of reasoning why people who can’t take criticism are the same ones who dish it out.
Have you dealt with a Narcissist dishing it out, but not being able to take it? What has been your experience? Comment below. And as always, I appreciate you for sharing your stories with me.
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