Listening to others when they speak is perhaps one of the most important tools we have as a society. In fact, its effectiveness can be seen in the way we interact with others at work, at school or anywhere else. Many times, we listen with the intent to respond to the other person. Because of this, we often times miss the core of the other person’s message. This is where active listening comes in.
Active listening is being in the moment with the other person and truly hearing what that person is saying. Don’t listen with the intent to respond, but instead, listen with the intent to understand. To truly understand.
Active listening with your children
So how can you use the active listening technique with your children? How will it foster a deeper bond with them?
That above photo truly says it all when it comes to actively listening to your children. Be in the moment with them! They need to know you listen to them. I mean really listen.
Actively listening to someone does take time and practice. Just let your children know that you are trying to hear them and what they are saying to you. There are ways to make that an easier task for you.
The biggest barrier to active listening is when the NX blocks any attempt at communication with the children. It will come in the form of ignoring phone calls or emails, not letting the children call you, or even keeping the children so busy that they don’t even have to time write a letter back to you. I have sadly dealt with each of those instances. So how do we deepen the bond with our children when the NX blocks our attempts to communicate with them? Keep doing what you are doing, my friends. Keep calling. Keep writing emails or handwritten letters. Why? Because it will show the children that you care. That you want a relationship. The children will eventually see the truth one day – that it was the NX who kept you and the children apart.
What have been your experiences with active listening? Comment below. And as always, I appreciate you for sharing your stories with me.
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