A Narc wants what he wants when he wants it. A Narc who is determined to get his way will be loud, angry and confrontational. He is so afraid that his needs won't be met that he will do anything to accomplish it, even if that means attempting to force others to comply.
So why does a Narcissist have this "my way or the highway" mentality? Narcs are immensely needy and extremely desperate for approval. And because they didn't get the love in their lives that they craved, they demand the love, attention, affection, and adoration now any way that they feel they can get it.
And if you don't give them what they demand? Then it's the highway with you. But if you are involved with a Narc, it's not as cut and dry as that. A Narc is also more cunning than that. They are master manipulators (see my post here on The Great Manipulator) and they will get you to compromise your viewpoint or who you are as a person just to get what they want.
They don't care about you. You are just a means to an end. They refuse to see things from your perspective or compromise to reach a solution.
What do you do in that case? How do you meet their needs while maintaining your boundaries? (Read my post on Boundaries for insight.) Is maintaining your boundaries even possible when you try to meet a Narc's needs? In a word....no. It is not possible. The Narc will change his needs as often as he changes his underwear. He will change the rules of the game every day to leave you confused and guessing.
So in an attempt to not incur my NX's wrath, I would acquiesce and let him have his way. Unfortunately, he'd change the rules and he'd erupt into his Narc rage. (See my post on The Narcissistic Rage.) So no matter what I did or didn't do, I would be on the receiving end of his wrath. So, I did my own thing anyway.
Have you experienced this "my way or the highway" mentality with someone? Comment below. And as always, I appreciate you sharing your stories with me.