Narcissists are known for never accepting responsibility in their lives. This includes pitching in with household duties. And as such, they will end up making you feel like a servant.
Narcissists will categorize their children. They will place titles on their children in accordance with how they treat them. It doesn't matter if a family has one child or 10 children, the labels of the Scapegoat, the Conformer, the Runner and the Golden Child will always be present.
When I found out my NX had a new supply, the first question that popped into my mind was, “Will she be good to my children?” This is a very valid question to ask, my warrior survivor friends.
It is inevitable in our lives that we will eventually cross paths with the every day garden variety bully. The bully who thinks the world of themselves. The bully who humiliates others on social media. The bully who intimidates and threatens to get their way. So what happens when we “meet” this bully? What can we do to thwart their tactics?
If you are new to the world of recovery from Narcissistic Abuse, you might be asking yourself why Narcissists seem to love picking fights. This is an extremely valid question, indeed. I asked myself that same question over and over at the start of my healing journey. There is only one possible explanation that I came up with – Narcissists pick fights because they need the supply.
I have always believed that children are astute observers. They take in much more than we adults give them credit for. And from all their observations, they are more susceptible to feeling the effects of emotional abuse.
Whether you discarded the Narcissist or they discarded you, one thing stands clear. They will no longer have you in their lives to control, so they resort to the one thing that they can control. The children. The Narcissists do not care about anyone at all, least of all their children, so they use the children to punish you.
When there is great loss in our lives, it can be so difficult to process. And that’s when it’s a normal every day loss. What about when the loss is due to a toxic relationship that came to a sudden end? We still need to process the grief we feel. Processing grief properly is so vital to our healing journey.
In the Narcissistic relationship dynamic, you might often hear the words codependent or codependency. These words are used far too often when referring to abusive situations. But are victims and survivors of Narcissistic Abuse codependent or is it something else?
Not long ago, a reader asked this question. I even had a bad day to the point where I began asking the question too. Why do Narcissists always seem to be winning and on the top? Why do they seem to catch all the breaks?
In my first blog on this subject, I discussed how Narcissists use their children as pawns in the Narcissist’s game of payback against the target. Narcissists hate us that much that they will do what it takes to turn the children against us.
This is a special blog post today, my warrior survivor friends. I don’t normally publish twice on Wednesdays, but this situation needs to be addressed. Again. This isn’t so much as a “turning on each other” post as it is dealing with a page that has turned on mine.
Narcissists view themselves as superior and all-knowing. It only stands to reason then that there are certain things that they just won’t do.
Trust is essential to the success of any kind of relationship – between significant others, between parent and child, between friends. No matter the type of relationship, one thing stands clear. Trust is earned, not given.
You might not be aware that it is happening. But it is something that both you and the Narcissists use within the dynamic of the relationship. It is called reframing and it is something that you need to be more conscious of in your dealings with the Narcissists.
Knowing what I know about Narcissists, and knowing what I know about my NX, I have been wondering if either of my children will become a Narcissist. It’s a valid concern for survivors who have children with the Narcissist.
Narcissists don’t want us to heal. They don’t want us to move forward in life. They don’t want us to recover. This is precisely why they will come back around even after the discard. Don’t think that they are done with you when the discard occurs. Because they always come back around.
Healing from Narcissistic and Emotional Abuse is difficult at best. Why? It isn’t fair that we are the ones who have to do all the work. Much of that work comes in the form of finding the right therapist to conduct one on one counseling with us.
Some experts say Narcissists can change. I’m not so sure about that. I mean, just because I haven’t seen it happen, doesn’t mean it can’t. However, more often than not, Narcissists cannot be fixed.
One of the hallmark traits of Narcissists is their grandiose thinking. This line of thinking saturates every pore of the Narcissist’s personality and is the basis for which they operate.
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