Children are the innocent victims caught in the crossfire when Narcissistic parents play the loyalty conflict game. It is a fascinating topic. One that I wanted to explore more in a blog post.
Narcissists heavily rely on put downs and biting remarks to sting their targets. They know exactly what will drive us down further into the pits of despair so that they can maintain power over us. This type of humor is known as caustic humor.
What happens when you have both a Narcissistic Spouse AND a Narcissistic Mother in Law? It's a recipe for disaster, that's what. Today's guest blog post describes SPOT ON how I felt about having my NX as well as his mother against me. One of the first times I had experienced her Narcissistic behavior was when she came over to our house for a visit. She said to me, "Well, he's your problem now!"
Have you ever seen a puppeteer at work? They spend years honing their craft. As a result, they can masterfully control the levers to make the puppet move and “talk” in ways that they want it to. Many puppeteers make a living from this craft.
To divert is to reroute or change direction of something. A traffic pattern is diverted due to construction or a car crash. Your attention can be diverted from your work due to an interruption, like a phone call. By the same token, Narcissists can divert attention off of themselves by using a number of tactics in their arsenal.
Have you ever wondered why Narcissists blame everyone else for things that go wrong? Have you wondered why Narcissists never own up to their mistakes? It’s because they don’t ever take responsibility for their actions. They never hold themselves accountable.
Our bodies react to our natural surroundings. If it’s cold out, we shiver. Conversely, if it’s hot out, we sweat. The same can be said about our bodies if we find ourselves in a stressful situation. It’s a chain reaction within our bodies in response to outside stressors. This is called the Fight or Flight Response.
When you’ve made the decision to leave the Narcissist, there are barriers you may face when doing so. These obstacles can make it more difficult for your escape to be successful.
Narcissists can pick and choose what parts of their traits they display to the public, like charm and humor. To their targets, like us, they can carefully choose what parts to display. This includes their passive aggressive nature. At any given time, they can release those different aspects, thereby creating confusion in those they display the traits to.
You’ve made the decision. You want to leave. You’ve had enough and you need to get out. But how? There are dos and don’ts when it comes to safely leaving the Narcissist.
Narcissists are known for never accepting responsibility in their lives. This includes pitching in with household duties. And as such, they will end up making you feel like a servant.
Narcissists will categorize their children. They will place titles on their children in accordance with how they treat them. It doesn't matter if a family has one child or 10 children, the labels of the Scapegoat, the Conformer, the Runner and the Golden Child will always be present.
When I found out my NX had a new supply, the first question that popped into my mind was, “Will she be good to my children?” This is a very valid question to ask, my warrior survivor friends.
It is inevitable in our lives that we will eventually cross paths with the every day garden variety bully. The bully who thinks the world of themselves. The bully who humiliates others on social media. The bully who intimidates and threatens to get their way. So what happens when we “meet” this bully? What can we do to thwart their tactics?
If you are new to the world of recovery from Narcissistic Abuse, you might be asking yourself why Narcissists seem to love picking fights. This is an extremely valid question, indeed. I asked myself that same question over and over at the start of my healing journey. There is only one possible explanation that I came up with – Narcissists pick fights because they need the supply.
I have always believed that children are astute observers. They take in much more than we adults give them credit for. And from all their observations, they are more susceptible to feeling the effects of emotional abuse.
Whether you discarded the Narcissist or they discarded you, one thing stands clear. They will no longer have you in their lives to control, so they resort to the one thing that they can control. The children. The Narcissists do not care about anyone at all, least of all their children, so they use the children to punish you.
When there is great loss in our lives, it can be so difficult to process. And that’s when it’s a normal every day loss. What about when the loss is due to a toxic relationship that came to a sudden end? We still need to process the grief we feel. Processing grief properly is so vital to our healing journey.
In the Narcissistic relationship dynamic, you might often hear the words codependent or codependency. These words are used far too often when referring to abusive situations. But are victims and survivors of Narcissistic Abuse codependent or is it something else?
Not long ago, a reader asked this question. I even had a bad day to the point where I began asking the question too. Why do Narcissists always seem to be winning and on the top? Why do they seem to catch all the breaks?
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