Have you noticed that the Narcissist treats their new supply sources quite differently than they are currently treating you? I did. Have you thought there was something wrong with you because of that? I did.
Let me be the first to say that no, there is NOTHING wrong with you. There is everything wrong though with the Narcissist.
Narcissists treat their new supply sources like gold because the Narcissist needs to "pull the wool over" the supply's eyes. The Narcissist needs to get the supply source to think they are the "greatest thing since sliced bread."
But why? It boils down to Lovebombing and Mirroring. The Narcissist needs to create an image of themselves that will give off the sense that they are the most desirable person in the world. They need to make themselves appear attractive, friendly and successful. How else would they be able to lure their prey in? If they showed all their cards right away, they'd never get supply sources. No, instead they have to play the long game and be kind, gentle and loving at first. When the NX first started lovebombing the new supply, I thought that he was treating her so much better than me. He would put her up on such a pedestal. He would brag on social media how he found his soulmate, how she kept the monster within him at bay, and even how she helped him pick up the pieces from being the poor victim from a previous relationship (aka me). (I saw all of this before I had the strength to block him on social media.) I thought why is she getting the red carpet treatment, while I was getting the abuse? What was wrong with me? Was it all me? Was he right that I was the problem? NO! I was not the problem. And neither are you, my warrior survivor friends. There is NOTHING wrong with you and you are not the problem. They are the ones with the problem. They are the ones who carry on the charade and wear masks to make it seem like they are a great catch. They are the ones who are Mirroring the new supply and copying their every mannerism, likes, dislikes, etc. They are ones who create a fake persona. Bottom line Narcissists need to have their supply sources think of them as gods. Otherwise, everyone would be able to see right through them. Instead, the Narcissists create a fake persona to lure their supply sources into their web of deceit. That's why the supply sources think the Narcissists are so amazing - because the Narcissist creates that image. What have been your experiences with the new supply source thinking the Narcissist is the most wonderful person ever? Comment below. And as always, I appreciate you for sharing your stories with me.
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Stephen Turner
3/10/2022 06:34:05 pm
My ex hasn't started this as yet, she is getting plenty of attention still playing victim off all her friends, saying I assaulted her when I never did, I would never hurt anyone let alone a woman, she has atta he'd me many, many times, this last time I had to push her off me, that's where the so called assault in her eyes took place, she tells her friends that I've beaten her up and am the worst thing ever, she's even doing a fun run for victims of domestic abuse, it's killing me I side knowing the truth and seeing her play victim, I managed to seek out her ex by from 20 years ago, he tells me the same story and exactly the same experiences from her, the isolation, manipulation, gas lighting, always right, drama queen etc.
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Robyn
6/18/2022 04:11:31 pm
I have four grown son’s. I did not have a healthy childhood so no real role model. I met my ex at HS graduation. So that was 46 years together. Anyway I had no idea what a narcissist was till I looked up mixed messages. I just about fainted and was sick to my stomach. I got along with pretty much anyone but to be around him was awful. He undermined me behind my back. So my real point is I haven’t had a real relationship with my older son in 9 years. He is married and tried so hard to have a relationship with her but she was like one of the mean girls. He runs my exes business and has become arrogant & materialistic. His 3 daughters do not know I’m their grandmother. My second son stopped talking to me since he had a come to Jesus talk with his father which I encouraged as he thought his father was going to die from a open heart surgery. I tried very hard to reassure him he’s not going to die. He texted me & said Dad & I talked and we are good. I said I’m very happy for you! But I’m also sad as your 32 years old & he had to go through this surgery to tell you he loves you. I tried very hard to again befriend his wife but she was best friends with my oldest son’s wife. They had a little girl and I had to almost make an appt to see her. My son told me she got mad at me because I stayed to late? I left when the baby went to bed? I offered many times to help watch the baby as that fell on deaf ears. They didn’t realise when in conversation that her family helped here & there. I was deeply hurt inside but kept my mouth shut. I loaned them money for their wedding as my son said he didn’t want to hear it from his father. They had a nice wedding & reception but she went a little to far as she felt she deserved it? Did not get any pay back other than a couple payments which were less than $2000.00. I loaned them ard $14,000.00. So his father sold his one business and made a couple Mill. He decided to build a brand new ranch and I saw my son’s house for sale on FB. He was also $15000.00 in credit card debt. So with the help of his father the bought his Father’s 4 bedroom house. Plus he also works under my oldest & my ex. He is surrounded by narcissists. So my two younger son’s do not work for the shop and both work for other companies doing great. My youngest son’s wife is so sweet. She finished her schooling to become a occupational therapist!! So proud of her. The two older wives are not very nice to her and I feel bad but she is over them. They live about 2 hours away. My youngest son & third son tolerate the older two. My youngest son said he & my third son are close and his oldest brother is pissed because he has no control of them. I’m very saddened by the behavior of my two older son’s as my values & morals were different. I said nobody should control anyone as your all grown adults.He said he asked his father about his brother’s attitude? Of course he said I don’t know why he acts that way?? Baloney!! I told my ex he’s creating a monster with my oldest! So my third son and his wife have two little boys who are the love of my life. I watch them three times a week and finally can be a grandma! I asked to be called GiGi for grateful grandma 😊 This daughter in law is just lovely. She grew up on the same street that my oldest daughter in law. She stays neutral which is fine. My ex was a workaholic and always yelled and demeaned the boys.They were not able to express themselves. He was an awful husband & emotionally connected with the boys. He was a good provider but that was not what we all needed. Stuff does not make you happy. My second daughter in law made a comment that she was soo nervous to meet the family?? I was confused and looked at my second son baffled? She said because of the status? But it’s fine now. I said did I miss something here or didn’t get the email? What status?? My son defended his father that his business and being successful! I shook my head and said one should be kind, grateful & humbled. So anyway my ex is the best papa!! Of course he is!! He keeps handing out money! SMH! My youngest son said what are they going to say to their daughters hear my grandsons call me GiGi? They will have children down the road and his kids will call me GiGi. I have no idea as I have no regrets with my older sons. But I’m so sad I wasted so many years in this marriage! I’m still angry at my self. It’s taken around 3 years or so and different medications my Dr cared enough about me and wouldn’t give up on me! I’m so grateful to her! All I can say is narcissists mind screw you totally!
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