So, with all this talk on Narcissists and the destruction they leave in their wake, I'm sure you're asking yourself, "Well, what IS a Narcissist, anyway?"
Quite honestly, you've likely encountered a narcissist or two in your comings and goings. Something may not have seemed quite right with them. An arrogant persona. A sense of entitlement. Check out the list below and you will begin to take more notice of the people in your life - a romantic partner, a colleague or a family member.
1. A grandiose sense of self-importance. You will hear that phrase often in articles or conversations surrounding narcissists. It means the person greatly exaggerates achievements and talents, often providing embellishments to the stories that just aren't true. (For example, he received awards and accolades that he never did.) He will also demand to be recognized as superior and all-knowing. 2. Feels a sense of entitlement. My NX would always expect to be treated more favorably than others in a social circle, his place of employment or in our home. He expected for people to always agree with him, to wait on him hand and foot, or if he asked something of me (or anyone else), he expected for that to be taken care of immediately. 3. Requires, and frankly expects, admiration and adulation. He will feel as if he's earned the praise of others. When he doesn't receive it, he will make a scene in public to draw attention to the fact that he did not get all the attention and praise that he feels is owed to him. 4. Believes that he is special and one-of-a-kind. Because of this, he feels he ought to hob-nob with other special and one-of-a-kind people, typically those in high-status people (or high ranking officials). My NX was an E-3 in the military, but that didn't stop him from brown-nosing the higher ranking officers and hob-nobbing with them.
5. Lacks empathy. He does not nor will he ever care about the needs of others, including his spouse and children. Because the NX feels it's all about him, he will refuse to acknowledge the needs or desires of others. Every time I began to open my mouth to voice an opinion or that I needed something, my NX would interrupt me and either tell me I didn't want what I said I did, or he'd turn the conversation around to make it all about him.
6. Very envious. The Narcissist will be quite envious of others, or truly believe that others are envious of him. My NX would always say, "Oh they're just jealous" whenever he received acknowledgment for something, so he felt justified in saying others were jealous of his achievements. In fact, the opposite is true, as well. I know my NX is envious of my children's achievements in school. He takes FULL credit for their good grades, their student of the month awards and other scholastic achievements. 7. Playing the victim. The Narcissist is VERY good at turning the tables to appear as if he is the victim. My NX weaves such a "woe is me" tale, that anyone would fall for. Heck, the courts did. That's how HE got custody of the children! And any new supply would certainly fall for the NX playing the victim card. 8. Rejects criticism. In fact, the Narcissist abhors criticism. Narcs cannot stand being told they are wrong, that they need improvement, or that something could be done differently than they do it. My NX would fly into a rage (see my post on The Narcissistic Rage) whenever I was even slightly critical of something that he said or did. 9. Excels at blaming others. A Narcissist cannot or will not ever accept responsibility for things they say or do. Instead, the Narc will blame someone else for what goes wrong. I was always on the receiving end of that blame. My NX would always tell me that it was my fault that he had a bad day at work, that it was my fault that dinner was ruined, that the garbage wasn't taken out, that the laundry wasn't put away, that the living room still looked messy, etc etc etc. Does anything in the above list sound familiar? Comment below. And as always, I appreciate you sharing your stories with me.
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hope
9/3/2016 03:00:33 am
This describes my husband to the T
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Jenn
9/3/2016 02:29:32 pm
Hope......I am sorry that you deal with it too. How are you coping? Stay safe. I'll be thinking of you.
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Me
3/25/2017 11:00:08 pm
Me again it's night time and he's gone for a week I feel alone sad and weak. 😪I pray for strength for all of us dealing with this this is my second marriage and I feel like such a failure I liked being married. My kids are grown I feel so sad I can't stop crying
Joanie Morgan Powell
4/8/2017 03:26:36 am
I'm still trying to heal after a 20 year relation ship with a narcissistic man....He tore down everything about me and would never leave...until the time I needed him the most...I had spinal surgery 5 months later my mother died.....then he distanced himself found another woman and walked away......I was finally free.....im doing so much better.....Thhank you God....love your articles.....NOW I KNOW WHAT KIND OF MAN I WAS DEALING WITH.....
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Joanie. There's nothing wrong with you Know that! You will be so happy and almost feel relieved. We get our moments of grief. But there is light in all of us!
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Jenn
4/15/2017 07:26:09 pm
PC......that is an incredible poem. Thanks for sharing that.
Jenn
4/15/2017 07:23:55 pm
Joanie.......I am glad the articles have helped you. This is why I do what I do. You see, when I was first discarded, I felt so alone and confused. I had found a few Facebook recovering communities that helped. It wasn't until last year that I felt I could do some good by beginning to help others. I hope that for you one day.....that you find strength to help others. I'm not completely healed by any means, but I am certainly better than I was 7 years ago. You seem like you're in the beginning stages of your healing journey, and that's okay. Healing will take time. You will have good days, and you will have bad days. Just know that you are on your way to living a happier life full of freedom and strength. Take care.
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Wow I think my partner is a narcissist
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Me
4/8/2017 08:55:49 am
Every day it gets more clear. My adrenalin has been on overdrive. I embrace my future and feel nothing to the man who wants out. The feeling is mutual. I will heal! I won't give up!
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