Narcissistic abusers have children, not out of love, but purely for the purpose of having what is called "Narcissistic Supply."
They need sources of supply to feed off of. When the children they have get old enough to begin seeing what they truly are and understanding what it is they are dealing with, the Narcissist will begin the discard phase of their own children!
Yes, this sounds sick. And sad. And it is. Because the Narcissist will find a new supply and have additional children with that new person. It's an "out with the old, in with the new" mindset. The Narcissist will have new supply sources to feed off of until such time when these children are of no use to the Narcissist anymore. In the meantime, the other (older) children are pushed aside because they are beginning to see the Narcissist for what they are. Still, the Narcissist will keep them "under foot" so that they always have a "reserve" of supply close by. And while the older children are still under foot, they will continually be punished and grounded for the slightest infractions. This occurs because the Narcissist needs to continually have their supply sources see them as the authority. The Narcissist perceives themselves as the authority in the household who has all the power and will wind up dictating to others in the household what they can and cannot do. The Narcissist expects respect, but gives none in return to the children - just because they are children. Even so, the children can always be pulled back in with the Hoovering tactic the Narcissist loves to use. They will use the FOG method (fear, obligation, guilt) and worm their way back into the children's lives by acting like they've suddenly seen the error of their ways. And because the children want so badly to have the parent's love, they accept them back.....only to wind up being hurt again and again. It's rather sickening, actually, the way a Narcissist uses their own child as a means to an end. This inevitably causes hurt and pain to that child in the long run. So much so, that the child can even have thoughts of self harm because of what they go through. Bottom line Narcissists do not love their children. They may claim to, of course. But they don't love them. They only love what the children can do for them - and that is provide the Narcissist with supply. Supply that they need in order to survive. What is your experience with Narcissists and how they only have children for Narcissistic Supply? Comment below. And as always, I appreciate you for sharing your stories with me.
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Theresa martin
3/4/2022 02:06:01 am
We believe my son is going through a divorce with a narcissist, and my granddaughter has suffered through her childhood , her own mother told her she only had her so she had someone who would love her , she started to question her mother love and control over her life , we were able to get her out of the situation, she now lives with us , and we our trying to show her true love
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