When I found out my NX had a new supply, the first question that popped into my mind was, “Will she be good to my children?” This is a very valid question to ask, my warrior survivor friends.
I’d like to think the answer is yes. And here’s why.
The new supply is a fresh new source. He or she will still be the caring and loving person the Narcissists “fell” for. My NX began deriving energy from his NS in January 2016. They were married in April 2017. He swooped in and wooed her. She fell for his charm, just like I did.
She seems to be attentive to the children’s needs. I once heard her in the background while I was on the phone with my daughter. The NS was doing my daughter’s hair. And in pictures I’ve seen of my daughter, my daughter’s hair looks nicer. More taken care of. Combed and brushed. Styled! Other pictures show the NS smiling with my children.
I surmise the NS doesn’t have children of her own. Yet. But I pray that she continues along this seemingly good path of providing care and support to my children. I’d like to think moreso for my daughter, since she is entering into puberty soon.
I’ll admit it. I’m actually jealous of the NS. She is getting to raise my children. She is getting to go to school functions, help them with their homework, play games with them, take them shopping, etc. I know I should be grateful for this. I am grateful, actually.
I also see the NS as a distraction from the emotional abuse my NX puts my children through. She is another target for him. Another source of supply. So he is not just drawing supply from my children, but from the NS, too. I see her as a go-between…..as a way to deflect the attention/abuse that my children receive. I see her as an advocate for my children, too. So maybe when they misbehave in his eyes (ie. Do what children do), the NS can advocate for the children so that they do not receive a harsh punishment or scolding from the NX.
For right now, my children have a positive female role model in their daily lives. For right now, she is treating them as her own. I will pray that it continues.
What has been your experience with the new supply and your children? Comment below. And as always, I appreciate you for sharing your stories with me.
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