I cannot believe that today marks two years that I pressed “publish” on this website. It has been an incredible journey. A journey filled with insight and knowledge. I have learned so much over the last two years, and I have you to thank, my readers.
The biggest lesson
My biggest lesson to this day still remains the fact that it is okay to have bad days during my healing journey. For a while, I was stuck. I mean, I was in therapy and I was writing in a journal. I even was opening up more about my experience. Yet somehow, I still felt lacking in my healing journey.
I felt my bad days were creeping back into my life. My NX knows what buttons to push and keeps pushing them. Sometimes, I feel like I am sliding backwards in my journey. I feel like he is winning!
It wasn’t until I started this page that you, my readers, helped me.
Wait. How have you helped me, you may ask?
Sometimes, we need an outside perspective. I’m not talking about those “outsiders” that I’ve mentioned in my posts on my Facebook page. Not the outsiders who don’t know what we go through. I’m referring to a fellow survivor’s perspective. You guys have shed a different kind of light on my healing process.
I have always said that it’s okay to have those bad days. It means that we are just processing things further. It means we are learning coping skills. It means that we are gaining new insight.
Other things learned
I am not one to tout my own horn. I really never have been that kind of person. But I just want to say that I am really glad I started this blog. I had NO idea that it would reach this many people. I can’t believe how many of you that I have helped. I am grateful for each and every one of you. Starting this page has helped me reach other survivors who are still struggling in their healing journeys.
That is another thing I’ve learned – that this page can and does reach other struggling survivors. As I have said several times before (on my Facebook page) that helping you has helped me.
I have written blog topics that I had to do research on (of course). And while researching these blogs, I learned new terms, new ways to heal, new tactics the Narcissist employs. Narcissists are extremely toxic individuals! I know I have only scratched the surface with information!
I’ve also learned to be more cautious when meeting new people. Yes, I’m still friendly. But now I don’t readily spill my life story to people. If they ask specific questions, then I answer. But I no longer go into new friendships with my heart on my sleeve like I used to. I don’t trust as easily. I don’t view the world with the same set of eyes anymore.
The information that is available to survivors now is certainly much more plentiful than even 10 years ago. I know I have a long way to go in my healing journey. Truthfully, I don’t think we’ll ever be fully healed. I think there will always be a part of us that reacts to the Narcissists. I know for me, it’ll be that much more difficult because my NX has custody the children. And since they are still young, I have a ways to go before they leave his house and go off to college.
What have you learned in your healing journey? Comment below. And as always, I appreciate you for sharing your stories with me.
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Greetings, my warrior survivor friends! Welcome to my blog. I'm Julianna, the owner and creator of this site. Check out the My Story section to read about why I started this blog. Thanks for stopping in. And feel free to comment on any post, share your own thoughts and stories. I would love to hear from you!
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