The birth of the first web page in early 1991 has made it possible for people around the world to connect and discover new information. By that same token though, it has also made it possible for individuals to accomplish nefarious activities. Narcissistic individuals are among those who use the internet for activities such as cyberstalking.
By definition
According to Merriam Webster, stalking is the act that someone commits when they repeatedly harass, intimidate or otherwise bother someone that causes that other person to feel fear. Fear for their safety. Fear for their life. Cyberstalking is just the above definition, but doing so on the internet or by other electronic means (like phone calls or texts). “Cyberstalking involves using electronic means, including the Internet, to stalk or harass a person or group of people. Cyberstalking can include many things including threats, solicitation for sex, false accusations, defamation, slander, libel, identity theft, and vandalism.”
Why they rely on it
Narcissists will use any form of abuse that they can in order to use and abuse us. The internet is just one more way they can harass, bully and intimidate us. They can heavily rely on cyberstalking when we are not physically in their lives to control anymore. They also can heavily rely on it when we still are in their lives. Narcissists have a way with pushing whatever buttons they can in order to drive us to the breaking point. My NX has used the internet as a way to intimidate me, bully me and defame me since he discarded me. Why? Because he has remained quite a bit of geographical distance away and it’s the last route he can take in order to continue to abuse me. He wanted to use any means necessary to "prove" his point that I am the unstable one. How can someone like my ex use the internet to harass me and bully me when he’s not even in the same town? How does he know what goes on? Well, while I do post to my Facebook often, I’m sure much of my ex’s claims are assumptions to rile me up. He makes stuff up just to see how I’d react. Combine that with his capability to have an endless amount of flying monkeys and fake Facebook profiles, and you will have someone who will somehow obtain screenshots and shove my words back at me. And that’s another thing. Cyberstalking doesn’t end with sending threatening texts or emails. It’s an endless barrage of hateful comments even on their own social media posts! It’s creating fake profiles just to “keep an eye on” what you do. Oh, they’ll deny that one until the cows come home. They will outright deny that they have created fake profiles for that purpose and call you paranoid. I know my ex has at least 3 other profiles…..one in his middle and first name, one in his full name because his main profile was put in “Facebook jail” for 30 days, and one I recently discovered he made in my daughter’s name! (Yes, in my daughter’s name. She’s not even old enough by Facebook standards to even HAVE an account yet.) It’s really sad and pathetic to realize what lengths that Narcissists will go to in order to continue unleashing their abuse on us. I feel like it’s what they spend all of their time on. They create profiles just to stalk our pages. They post cryptic messages on their own pages. They find ways to send us messages aimed at intimidating and bullying us. They want us to break. They want to cause us great pain and despair. How have you dealt with cyberstalking Narcissists, my friends? Comment below. And as always, I appreciate you for sharing your stories with me.
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Adam
4/6/2018 02:55:57 am
My wife & I have put up with a narc,well possibly a narcissistic family for over 8 years on social media.My wife's cousin's,well 3 cousins & I may include her cousins mother as well,I think that is where they learned to become a narc.Anyhow,one of the cousins has been known to have as many as 10 or more fake Fb accounts trough the years,even commenting back & forth with other fake accounts she had.We have received so many fake account messages over the years I have lost count,from saying things to me like "you don't know your wife she is like this & like that" pure lies,same ole thing over & over.I have got a long list of accounts I have blocked over the years & just waiting for another one to pop up.My wife & I have went no contact several times in over 8 years,but this last time we made a pack to not have anything else to do with them (the last straw) we have done a lot of research about Narcs,and when we first starting learning about narcs we was amazed on how her cousins were,so many things narcissim have in common with them.One of the cousins uses funerals so she can stand in front of people & sing a few songs (mind you funeral type of songs) to me that is just sick.Recently the cousins brother has started showing up at our church we attend,we figure he is a flying monkey & have cut him off as well (he is just about as bad as them) all he does is talk about himself & loves to play victim in everything as well.Social media is about the only place where they can pop up under a fake name & shoot a hateful message before getting blocked,we have learned not to answer back at any of them,just block & go on.They hate to be ignored,lol..These people are very sad people,so messed up in the head & so sick.My wife & I have went no contact for a little over 6 months,I know there will be more to come from them,but we are getting stronger & for websites & blogs like this it has helped us so much over the past several months on our road to recovery.We are just waiting for a threat & any thing like that & we are going to get a restraining order against them,we have over 8 years of stuff printed off from social media,we just need some type of recent threat for us to go forward (already talked to a lawyer about this).The story is much longer than what I have typed,I often tell my wife,we could write a book about them.
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