The Smear Campaign. Yes, it's as bad as it sounds. It is one of the nastiest tactics that a Narcissist uses.
The Smear Campaign is a premeditated effort aimed to ruin the reputation of the victim. Narcissists will launch into a diatribe of lies and slander all to discredit you. Why? The reasons are numerous.
Here's just a few.
1. The Narcissists are afraid of being found out, not just by you but also by everyone.
2. The Narcissists are utterly jealous of you. It doesn't matter if it's because you are popular or because you are thriving post breakup. They will do what it takes to bring you down.
3. The Narcissists realize that you do, in fact, see through them.
4. The Narcissists want to conceal their abuse. They thinks that if they get people to believe that you're the unstable one, that no one is likely to believe you about the abuse.
5. They want to play the part of the victim to their new supply. The new supply will see their "woe is me, my heart is broken" act and go comfort their "bruised" ego.
6. They are hungry for revenge against you. The closer you are to the truth about who they are, the more vicious in their revenge they will be.
While the above lists only some of the reasons why the Narc will use the Smear Campaign, it doesn't include what the smear campaign involves. Narcissists will do whatever they can to portray the victim as crazy, bipolar, unstable, an unfit parent.
My NX loved to use my one time diagnosis of Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) against me. Called me crazy. Constantly said he thought that I must have been off my meds. This BPD diagnosis came after I had been admitted to the mental health ward at the military base I was at. I was in the ward for 6 days. I only saw the doctor ONCE for a mere 30 minutes. The doctor was old and crotchety, and held steadfast to his preconceived notion of me. All he knew of me was what was in my file. He wouldn't listen to me about my ex being abusive! The doc said, "You're the patient. I'm the doctor. I know what I'm talking about."
So from that point on, my NX would use that diagnosis as a way to point out how crazy he thought I was! Incidentally, a future therapist said I had never fit the criteria for BPD in the first place, and re-diagnosed me with depression and anxiety. (Side note: The NX refuses to this day to believe my re-diagnosis! He said he would always believe the first one.)
From there, the Narc will weave a web of lies, half truths, exaggerations, and false accusations to paint the victim in a bad light and undermine the victim's credibility. They will contact the victim's family and friends, they will spread lies on social media.....anything they have to do to keep up their charade.
This will no doubt cause stress and anxiety in the victim. The purpose is to terrorize the victim into silence. Why? They can't have the victim being so vocal about the abuse, because then they'll be discovered as an abuser. That would destroy THEIR reputation and credibility. It would destroy the distorted vision they have of themselves. So they set out to destroy the victim's reputation and credibility first!
They will use this info any way they can to destroy you emotionally, mentally and even financially. The Narcissists will do anything they can to see you fall flat on your face. They want to see you struggle and fail.
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