Narcissists are like chameleons. They will always change to adapt to their surroundings to blend in and be like those around them. This guest post explores how the Narcissist is always "becoming" something else.
In our healing journeys, we are bound to come across those who tell us how to heal. We may be told to “get over it” or “aren’t you healed yet” and things of that nature. What outsiders don’t understand is this: We are the captains of our recovery ships.
In a post Narcissist life, all we want is peace and tranquility. To leave the craziness behind. To not have the gaslighting, the accusations, the intimidation, the threats. So, survivors employ the use of a method called Gray Rock, and it can be especially helpful in our healing journeys.
Jealousy, by definition, is an emotion that is displayed when someone is envious of another’s achievements, success, or talents. So, because of a Narcissist’s over-inflated sense of self-importance, they will outwardly displayed these jealous feelings towards another person when that other person has something the Narcissist does not.
Whether it’s a romantic relationship, a platonic friendship, a parent, a coworker or any other Narcissist in your life, one thing is for certain. Narcissists will say anything to get you back into their lives after you go No Contact.
Lovebombing. A Narcissist's first weapon to reel us in. It is their first line of attack in waging war against us. This guest post explores what happens when Narcissists lovebomb us.
Listening to others when they speak is perhaps one of the most important tools we have as a society. In fact, its effectiveness can be seen in the way we interact with others at work, at school or anywhere else. Many times, we listen with the intent to respond to the other person. Because of this, we often times miss the core of the other person’s message. This is where active listening comes in.
Last week’s blog discussed ways that you can foster a deeper bond with your children despite the Narcissist’s attempts to destroy that bond. But what happens when roadblocks prevent communication with your children? What happens when you’re not certain of how to communicate with your children and you inadvertently create these roadblocks?
Relationships with Narcissists are tumultuous at best. When we have children with them, it becomes a whole new ballgame, as the children are typically used against the healthy parent in ways that would make an outsider’s head spin. But despite the nature of Narc relationships, there are ways to maintain a close bond to your children.
Narcissists are like poker players – they will not show their hand. In fact, Narcissists will play the cards very well in the beginning. They will bluff. They will act like they have the best hand in order to pull you into the game. The problem with this is that the Narcissists will eventually whip out their ace in the hole. Their winning hand. They use asymmetrical warfare in their efforts to destroy their opponents. Their targets.
They say the eyes are the windows to the soul. With Narcissists, however, the eyes have a completely different use altogether. Narcissists have no soul and therefore cannot convey THEIR emotions. But they can certainly instill certain emotions within US.
In our healing journeys, we often wonder why we have difficulties from moving forward. This guest blog explores the five reasons why we become stuck in our healing journeys. Have you felt any of these five things? Comment below.
Narcissists can become dead set on enacting revenge against someone when things don’t go their way. It’s a broad way to say that they become frustrated and enraged when they become insulted or that their perceived sense of superiority takes a hit.
The birth of the first web page in early 1991 has made it possible for people around the world to connect and discover new information. By that same token though, it has also made it possible for individuals to accomplish nefarious activities. Narcissistic individuals are among those who use the internet for activities such as cyberstalking.
Narcissists are masters of illusion. They spend their time perfecting their skill set in order to lure us in. The below guest post explores the Narcissistic Illusion that is a Narcissist's entire deceptive way of living.
Toxic individuals like Narcissists are afraid to show emotions. It all comes down to that they refuse to show any kind of vulnerability. It would destroy their self-perceived sense of power that they think they have.
Nothing about the Narcissists is real. This includes love and relationships. They THINK they are in love. They SAY they are in love. They even express it to the whole world through their social media pages that they found "the one" and how happy they are. But this isn't love in the sense of what a healthy, empathic person feels. In fact, Narcissists do not love at all. Ever. This guest post explores why.
I get it. I was there. I felt the same way. I was torn between what I felt and what I could see with my own eyes. This guest blog post explores what many survivors feel post discard. The feelings that linger long after the Narcissist disappears. We still love them. But why?
Rediscovering who we are after Narcissistic Abuse is an important part in our healing journeys. Because of the Narcissists, we had become disconnected from who we really are. We became a shell of our former selves. We didn’t recognize ourselves. So how can we reconnect with ourselves in our healing journey?
When I read the book Psychopath Free, I was floored with how much I could relate to it. Although there were a vast number of parts to the book that struck a chord in me, one particular part got me truly thinking. And that part is having a Constant. Having a Constant in Narcissistic Abuse recovery is vital.
Narcissists are known for being both covert (secretive) and overt (open). They have a myriad of tactics that they use to gain the upper hand and confuse their targets. One of those tactics is doublespeak.
Road rage in and of itself is a sign of aggression. But looking at this one thing, we can’t conclude if another person is a Narcissist or not just because they are aggressive. It’s certainly a red flag, and that’s why we need to look at the whole. See if there are more red flags.
It’s a fact of life. We will age and grow older. We will develop wrinkles. We will begin to forget things. No one likes these things. No one likes to get older. But Narcissists? They absolutely despise aging!
Children are the innocent victims caught in the crossfire when Narcissistic parents play the loyalty conflict game. It is a fascinating topic. One that I wanted to explore more in a blog post.
Narcissists heavily rely on put downs and biting remarks to sting their targets. They know exactly what will drive us down further into the pits of despair so that they can maintain power over us. This type of humor is known as caustic humor.
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How Narcissists Make Sure You Never Solve Problems In A Relationship
Tightening Your Facebook Privacy Settings
How I Lost My Identity
The Fake Apology
Effects of Emotional Abuse
Why You Should Never Defend Yourself Against The Narcissist's Smear Campaign
Emotionally Abusive Behaviors
Going No Contact: A List Of What To Do And What Not To Do
An Open Letter To All Survivors Who Just Got Out Of An Abusive Situation
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