Rediscovering ourselves in our healing journeys plays a pivotal role in how we regain our strength and freedom. Oftentimes, we withdraw from things we love to do or that make us happy. Finding those activities again is an important step in our healing journeys.
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The truth, for many, is an intimidating concept. It’s why many of us seem to bend the truth from time to time in our daily lives. But the importance of truth plays a pivotal role in our recovery from Narcissistic Abuse. Our truth becomes our lifeline.
After Narcissistic Abuse, many survivors find it near impossible to trust anyone again. No matter who crosses paths with us, we begin to question everyone’s motives. Why do they want to help us? Why do they want to be friends with us? Why do they want to love us? But there will come a day when we will love and trust again.
This guest post explores the differences between having narcissistic tendencies from time to time versus being a true Narcissist. What are your thoughts regarding this topic? Comment below. And as always, I appreciate you for sharing your stories with me.
Communicating with Narcissists is not an easy task. We must be prepared for the onslaught of circular conversations, underhanded putdowns, verbal jabs and more. If we can avoid contact and conversations with the Narcissists, then we must do so. However, it is when we must communicate with them that we must be on guard.
All survivors want in the aftermath of Narcissistic Abuse is to thrive, and not merely survive. It IS possible to thrive after Narcissistic Abuse, my friends. It just takes time and patience.
Narcissists need for us to be a certain way in order to maintain their hold on us. In order to keep us from gaining insight, knowledge and freedom. They don’t want us to know the truth, so they need for us to be in a constant state of fear.
Whether we are just beginning our healing journeys or we are well into them, one thing can stand clear for many survivors – that we can feel clear resentment after the abuse. But how do you let go of that resentment and not let it consume you?
I cannot believe that today marks two years that I pressed “publish” on this website. It has been an incredible journey. A journey filled with insight and knowledge. I have learned so much over the last two years, and I have you to thank, my readers.
Outsiders think they know a Narcissist when they are one. Someone who is so outwardly into themselves. Someone who boasts often. But, there are signs of Narcissism that are easily missed when one doesn't understand the depths Narcissists go to in order to obtain supply.
It is not only possible, but achievable to have a life after the Narcissists. But how? How can we have a life after the Narcissists, especially when they seemingly have broken us down, torn our emotions to shreds, and destroyed our self-worth and our confidence?
Narcissists thrive on drama and chaos. They feed off of the reactions of others during times of stress, difficulties and tribulations. It's no wonder then that they love to pick fights.
Narcissists are like chameleons. They will always change to adapt to their surroundings to blend in and be like those around them. This guest post explores how the Narcissist is always "becoming" something else.
In our healing journeys, we are bound to come across those who tell us how to heal. We may be told to “get over it” or “aren’t you healed yet” and things of that nature. What outsiders don’t understand is this: We are the captains of our recovery ships.
In a post Narcissist life, all we want is peace and tranquility. To leave the craziness behind. To not have the gaslighting, the accusations, the intimidation, the threats. So, survivors employ the use of a method called Gray Rock, and it can be especially helpful in our healing journeys.
Jealousy, by definition, is an emotion that is displayed when someone is envious of another’s achievements, success, or talents. So, because of a Narcissist’s over-inflated sense of self-importance, they will outwardly displayed these jealous feelings towards another person when that other person has something the Narcissist does not.
Whether it’s a romantic relationship, a platonic friendship, a parent, a coworker or any other Narcissist in your life, one thing is for certain. Narcissists will say anything to get you back into their lives after you go No Contact.
Lovebombing. A Narcissist's first weapon to reel us in. It is their first line of attack in waging war against us. This guest post explores what happens when Narcissists lovebomb us.
Listening to others when they speak is perhaps one of the most important tools we have as a society. In fact, its effectiveness can be seen in the way we interact with others at work, at school or anywhere else. Many times, we listen with the intent to respond to the other person. Because of this, we often times miss the core of the other person’s message. This is where active listening comes in.
Last week’s blog discussed ways that you can foster a deeper bond with your children despite the Narcissist’s attempts to destroy that bond. But what happens when roadblocks prevent communication with your children? What happens when you’re not certain of how to communicate with your children and you inadvertently create these roadblocks?
Relationships with Narcissists are tumultuous at best. When we have children with them, it becomes a whole new ballgame, as the children are typically used against the healthy parent in ways that would make an outsider’s head spin. But despite the nature of Narc relationships, there are ways to maintain a close bond to your children.
Narcissists are like poker players – they will not show their hand. In fact, Narcissists will play the cards very well in the beginning. They will bluff. They will act like they have the best hand in order to pull you into the game. The problem with this is that the Narcissists will eventually whip out their ace in the hole. Their winning hand. They use asymmetrical warfare in their efforts to destroy their opponents. Their targets.
They say the eyes are the windows to the soul. With Narcissists, however, the eyes have a completely different use altogether. Narcissists have no soul and therefore cannot convey THEIR emotions. But they can certainly instill certain emotions within US.
In our healing journeys, we often wonder why we have difficulties from moving forward. This guest blog explores the five reasons why we become stuck in our healing journeys. Have you felt any of these five things? Comment below.
Narcissists can become dead set on enacting revenge against someone when things don’t go their way. It’s a broad way to say that they become frustrated and enraged when they become insulted or that their perceived sense of superiority takes a hit.
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