Often times, we ask ourselves "Am I a Narcissist?" We look within for answers because the other person (the real Narc) points fingers telling us we are selfish, narcissistic jerks.
Granted, we all exhibit narcissistic tendencies from time to time.
Please know, that you are not a Narcissist. If you have to ask yourself that question, you certainly are not a Narc.
1. Narcissists do not look within. To do so, would require accepting they have faults. They need to put on a front that shows how perfect they are.....that they are the most successful, the most attractive, the most intelligent. Narcissists don't admit to their shortcomings nor do they suggest areas of their life to truly improve upon. They think themselves to be perfect, so why improve upon that?
2. Narcissists don't ever show vulnerability. Showing vulnerability means the possibility of exposing any weaknesses. Narcs can't ever admit that they have weaknesses. In a healthy relationship, showing vulnerability means being open and honest about your needs, desires, and dreams. It's a way for couples to feel needed and appreciated. But Narcissists shut themselves out from this form of intimacy. Intimacy is really just another way to say "into me see." Narcs won't ever allow anyone to see into them. Narcs appear to the outside world as superior and all knowing. If they show even a fraction of vulnerability, their whole fake world will crumble.
3. Narcissists act superior. They think they're better than everyone. By asking "Am I a Narc", you are admitting that you have faults and don't have that superiority complex that Narcs have.
4. Conversation hogs. Narcissists like to talk. They talk for the sake of talking. Acting in an all-knowing manner as they make grand gestures with their arms and hands. Narcissists also talk over you. In healthy relationships, people are able to have that give and take in a conversation. They listen to the other person and vice versa. I learned in a communications class that that's called bilateral listening. They are able to really understand both their own needs and those of others. A Narcissist can't do all that.
5. Narcissists feel themselves to be entitled. They must have their every whim catered to when they say so. They feel they deserve special treatment whenever and wherever.
Have you questioned yourself if you were a Narcissist? I only included a few reasons why you aren't. This is not an exhaustive list. If you have anything to add, please comment below. And as always, I appreciate you sharing your stories with me.
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