Narcissists are everywhere, even in the professional world. They are doctors, lawyers, car salesmen, retail workers, military, law enforcement. Narcissists are drawn to these professions like magnets to a refrigerator because it guarantees them a constant flow of supply.
Narcissists can satisfy their thirst for power through these professions. All their interactions with others come from a position of authority. An "I know best, so you need to listen to me" perspective. Narcissists thrive on power and will go to any length to obtain it. That is why they will stomp on anyone who gets in their way.
In such positions of power, a Narcissist will elicit all the adoration, admiration and adulation that he or she needs to feel alive. The Narc can also extract fear and obedience from these professions as well. My NX was in the military and an emergency medical technician. Both of these professions have built-in sources of supply. He would flaunt his perceived intellectual prowess and skills, always informing others that he knew best. I wouldn't doubt that he'd even go so far as to tell patients he deals with that he knows more than the doctors! ("Well, that is what the doc says, but here's how it really is.") Whatever he accomplished, he'd be sure to let others know. He'd say he went to flight nursing school, but would conveniently leave out the part where he failed out. Lying by omission is status quo with Narcissists, but it also leaves others open to falling prey to their false appearances. Narcs are known to misrepresent the professions they choose. They achieved things they didn't, they claim they know something they really don't, they say they can do something that they really can't. They puff up their resume to appear smarter and more accomplished. This is also the reason many Narcissists can't hold down one job for very long. They fear being discovered for what they really are. My NX was in active duty military for only 2 and a half years. During that time, we were at 3 military bases. Leaving one job to move to another had multiple "benefits" in his mind.......people wouldn't find out about him, I couldn't hold down any kind of real job either, and I couldn't make or keep friends I made. Narcissists are abundant in the professional world. They get their fix from being "needed" which gives them that superiority complex. Narcs are always searching for their next fix - it has to be bigger, better......more adoration, more attention. But this constant search for supply will inevitably backfire as more and more people find them out. The Narcissist then needs to move to another city and search for new employment. In a new environment, the Narcissist will have fresh supply. And more ways to come off as all knowing and superior. Have you dealt with a Narcissist in the workplace? Comment below. And as always, I appreciate you sharing your stories with me.
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Evelyn
4/15/2018 01:46:20 am
In a relationship with who I strongly believe he is a narcissist. He gets very angry, hostile, and loves to constantly brag about his so called accomplishments. Which he might have but it's nonstop bragging. He says angrily he hates women cause he says they just used him. And he becomes homeless in every relationship he's had. I'm at the end of my rope. I feel like kicking him out to the curb. We been together for almost a year. He's only worked barely 3 months the whole time we been together. That's pretty much saying I've supported him this whole time we've lived together.
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Sasha
6/9/2018 01:32:55 am
RUN GIRL! I stayed with one for a year and a half not knowing he was a narcissist. I did catch on to his bad behavior. They do not change. No matter how hard you try or think you can help them. They will use you until you have nothing left to give then he will discard you for not being the source of supply anymore. So leave first!
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