In the realm of healing and recovery, you might hear terms and phrases like “Narcissists are parasites.” You might be wondering what this means and how knowing can help in your healing.
An organism that lives in another organism, called the host, and often harms it. It is dependent on its host for survival - it has to be in the host to live, grow and multiply. A parasite cannot live independently.
Because a parasite depends on its host to live, it rarely ends up killing the host. If it did, it would be required to find somewhere else to live and feed off of. (This might be why Narcissists move from victim to victim - because they feel they can no longer draw power from the source. That they have indeed "killed" the victim.
The parasite benefits at the expense of the host - the parasite uses the host to gain strength, and the host loses some strength as a result.
Why are Narcissists called parasites then?
Based on the definition of what a parasite is, you can then draw the conclusion that Narcissists feed off of their victims. They suck the life out of them. That is why they are also called Emotional Vampires. By drawing their power from their victims, the victims in turn lose strength and resilience. Narcissists are called parasites for a reason. They drain their victims over an extended period of time. They first need to gain the victim’s trust. That’s where the lovebombing comes in. (Read my post Love Bombing: How I Fell For It for more information.) They get you to trust them. Then, slowly but surely, they weave their web of deceit, their abuse tactics into the relationship.
A Narcissist’s strength is how they take whatever they can get whenever they can get it. It’s an investment. They have to be willing to invest the time into a relationship with you to extract what they want from you. Their only desire is to suck you dry, leaving you feeling dejected, alone and worthless.
During this parasitic attack, Narcissists will systematically destroy you. In my post Emotional Rape, I discussed the brutal psychological attacks that the Narcissist engages in. This is exactly why parasitic Narcissists are dangerous. Because they know exactly what they are doing to destroy you. Over time, they suck the life out of your soul. Just like a parasite feeds off of its host. Bottom Line It is a known fact that Narcissists cannot ever form healthy attachments to people, nor can they ever truly love another. They bounce from relationship to relationship without ever feeling guilt or remorse for the devastation they leave in their wake. Once you understand their parasitic nature, it will be easier to move forward in your healing and recovery. What are your thoughts on Narcissists being parasites? Comment below. And as always, I appreciate you for sharing your stories with me.
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1/7/2018 02:21:56 am
Yes you are correct in this analogy, Narcissists are exactly like an Intraspecific Social Parasite that manipulates it's host.
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Cheryl Ross
5/2/2018 02:08:50 am
So true - not a shred of guilt or remorse just a twisted sense of entitlement that other people excist only to serve them for their pleasure
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Steve
6/14/2019 09:19:11 pm
Agree with narcissists being parasites, who will only destroy collective happiness and trust, without feeling remorse. I once met a narcissist called Sayalay Anuttara, who was the personification of evil. She's found her latest host from Hungary, who she's currently exploiting to further her own name. Once he realises the truth, she'll move on to her next victim. It's a sad cycle for everyone.
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Cheryl Ellis
10/9/2019 09:59:22 pm
I am the Daughter of a narcissistic, parasitic mother who only wants me on her terms & for as long as I am useful to her & can meet her needs/wants, if I dont, she hates me & becomes abusive towards me, I lost my children because of her & am struggling to pick up the pieces after the damage she did.
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lovely
4/10/2022 10:35:23 am
i completely agree with what you say. i myself im the daughter of a malignant covert narcissist psychopath mother and i can tell you i wish i wasn't even born because of the abuse at her hands!
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