There's so many topics to choose from when beginning a blog on this subject. So why am I choosing this one? Because you, my readers, need to know that arming yourselves with knowledge is the number one way to protecting yourselves from the Narc's verbal and emotional (and sometimes, physical) assaults.
Once you have that knowledge or begin to acquire the knowledge, your eyes will begin to open and you'll very easily notice the patterns and tactics the Narc uses.
The Narc loves to have a supply who is vulnerable, naive, and needy. He craves that much in the same way a smoker might crave a cigarette. It's quite sad, really, that the Narc purposely chooses his victims/supply based on what he can get out of them. My ex-Narc (NX) chose me likely because I was quite vulnerable not long after I first met him. That was his opening, his way in. My first husband had begun the process of ending the marriage, and the NX swooped in like an eagle spotting its prey.
There's a saying that I heard not long ago, too. A Narc chooses you not for what's wrong with you, but for what's RIGHT with you. At first, that didn't make sense to me. But the more I tried to understand what I read, the more I realized that this makes total sense. Think about it. The Narc will mirror your best qualities to appear like your perfect mate. He will act charming, loving, kind, generous....all the things you are and more. (Read my blog on Mirroring for more information.) He will choose the strongest person emotionally. Why? Because he sees it as a challenge to break you down, to be totally destroy your sense of self worth, your esteem and your confidence. He will do whatever it takes to destroy you.
That is why you need to do whatever you can to arm yourself with as much knowledge about Narcissism as possible. The more you know, the better equipped you are to understand what you are dealing with. Furthermore, learning as much as you can about Narcissism and Emotional Abuse is a vital part to your healing and recovery. Read other people's stories, do research in the library or on the Internet. It doesn't matter if those in your inner circle (family, friends) understand your desire to learn this kind of information. You need to do it for YOU.
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