The recent death of a fellow survivor (not a reader of my blog or my Facebook page with the same name) got me thinking. She felt taking her life was the only option out of her pain. Sadly, it left behind a wave of grief in the survivor community.
This blog was born out of something another survivor said to the rest of us in the group. She is right. We MUST keep fighting.
People are not going to understand. Keep fighting anyway. People are going to talk about you. Keep fighting anyway. People are going to turn their backs on you, betray you, leave you. Keep fighting anyway.
People are going to question you and who YOU are. Keep fighting anyway. How?? You fight by putting one foot in front of the other. One baby step at a time. You fight by getting up in the morning and facing the day and remembering that there is always, always, always SOMETHING to be thankful for.
You fight by acknowledging your pain and accepting that there is NOTHING that you could have done differently, changed, been better about that would have made a difference. You fight by getting support, help, wherever you can, coming to this forum to "scream" and be validated.
You hold your head up WITHOUT guilt or shame (and eventually without regrets) and you stand proud in the loving, giving, generous, compassionate, empathetic, person that you are. You fight by not backing down and by being comfortable with your TRUTH. You fight by helping others in their fight.
If you are having a rough time and the fight just isn't in you - message me - or any one of us that you feel comfortable with and I will support you until you remember who and what you're fighting for and why. Each and every one of us has the ability to make a better life for ourselves - and our children if we have them. I didn't say "strength" because sometimes it just isn't there. And frankly, sometimes I get tired of hearing "how strong I am." But together, we are strong. When your strength seems to be all gone, I'll loan you mine. Just DON'T GIVE UP.
*This was reprinted with permission. A full name has not been attributed, so as to protect the identity the author of these words. Sometimes, a survivor must keep their identity closely guarded so their ex does not locate them. This is especially true if the situation was a very volatile one. With that said, that is the reason I kept her full name off this blog. If you are reading this Jan, I thank you for these incredible words of strength and encouragement.
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