Last week’s blog discussed ways that you can foster a deeper bond with your children despite the Narcissist’s attempts to destroy that bond. But what happens when roadblocks prevent communication with your children? What happens when you’re not certain of how to communicate with your children and you inadvertently create these roadblocks?
Learning to effectively communicate with your children will certainly foster a deeper bond with them. But when we utilize any of the following roadblocks, we are essentially telling the children that we aren’t willing to put in the effort to maintain a good relationship with them. At least that is what it’ll look like to the children. We may not even be aware we are using these roadblocks at first, and that’s partly because we were conditioned to accept these forms of “communication” and therefore, we began to think that it is an acceptable way to communicate with others.
Amy JL Baker talks about these roadblocks in her book, Co-Parenting with a Toxic Ex. Below are just 9 of the 14 roadblocks she discusses: The roadblocks
Bottom line Children need to feel heard. They need to know that their thoughts and feelings matter. They need to feel valued. When we respond to them using the above roadblocks, we are not fostering positive feelings in their minds and hearts. We are telling them that they don’t matter. They receive these roadblocks most often from the Narcissistic parent, which is why we, as the healthy parent, need to keep aware of how we interact with the children. What are your experiences with communication roadblocks? What do you do to foster a deeper bond with your children? Comment below. And as always, I appreciate you for sharing your stories with me.
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