The words domestic violence carry with them a strong connotation of hurt, betrayal and pain. In this pain, survivors of DV know that their lives will never be the same again.
In the instant you become free of your abusive situation, you will realize that your life is never going to be the same. Domestic violence will alter our lives to the point that we will look upon the world with different eyes.
And that’s the thing.
We will never view anything the same way again. Not our school. Not our work. Not our friends. Not our family. Not in our hobbies. We will face every person and every situation with trepidation and a sense of distrust. We will walk gingerly through life afraid to make a mistake. We fear the reactions from others should we even make that mistake. We view others with a keen eye that what if they turn out to be like the Narcissist.
A domestic violence situation will forever change how we live our lives. We will better guard our hearts. We will not be as trusting with information about our personal lives. We won’t wear our hearts on our sleeves. We won’t be as forthcoming in any future dealings. With anyone.
Even afterwards, we can (and do) face severe Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) symptoms such as nightmares, reoccurring flashbacks, difficulties in accomplishing our daily tasks and so much more. We even avoid places and people that remind us of the Narcissist. We take a different route to work or school. (Read my blog PTSD As A Result Of Narcissistic Abuse for more information.)
This fear is very real for survivors in that it can take control over us and cause us to change who we are. We become different people because of the abuse. We no longer are the carefree, fun, naïve people we once were. We lose ourselves and that child-like innocence.
Domestic violence may alter our lives, but we don’t have to let it ruin our lives. We can turn it around and make it work for our benefit. We can educate others. We can speak out against it. We can become an advocate.
How has DV altered your life? Comment below. And as always, I appreciate you for sharing your stories with me.
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