Rediscovering who we are after Narcissistic Abuse is an important part in our healing journeys. Because of the Narcissists, we had become disconnected from who we really are. We became a shell of our former selves. We didn’t recognize ourselves. So how can we reconnect with ourselves in our healing journey?
Connecting with ourselves in our healing journey can mean different things for different people. For some, it can mean emotional healing. For others, it can mean rediscovering things that they once loved. And still others try whatever they can do perhaps find a part of themselves that they didn’t even know about.
Below is just a short list of what has helped me connect with myself again.
That last one is important for me. Why, you may ask?
You see, my warrior survivor friends, Narcissists work hard at tearing down our self-confidence and self-worth. The NX left me feeling so inept and incapable of accomplishing anything. And when I did manage to reach a goal, he just mocked it. I would be left feeling dejected and unwilling to try anything new after that out of fear of being mocked again.
So when someone shows appreciation for something I have done, or when they express confidence in my abilities, it really makes a difference. In fact, there is one particular fellow survivor over the last few years who has had complete faith in me and in my ability to express my thoughts in a blog. He knows who he is. So thank you so much for believing in me.
It’s a rarity when we survivors find like-minded individuals who have experienced similar things. We know what we have gone through. We can identify with it. It’s not to say that my now husband hasn’t been supportive. Oh he has been. For sure. But like the old saying goes…..you don’t really know unless you’ve been there. And my fellow survivors have been there. They know.
Connecting with yourself post-Narc is just simply bringing yourself back to the person you were before the Narcissist walked into your life. Now I know that it’s impossible to get back to that person 100% only because we have been changed because of our experiences. What I’m referring to is getting back to the core of who we were and what we believed in. Reminding ourselves that it’s okay to be and do what we want. It’s about reconnecting with our inner core. It’s about living our lives as we see fit, not living it how others think we should live it.
One of the most powerful feelings in our healing journeys is to truly believe in ourselves and in our abilities. To know that we are traveling down the healing path the way we see fit. How are you connecting with yourself in your healing journey? Comment below. And as always, I appreciate you for sharing your stories with me.
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